How to Be a Dad To A Daughter | Dad University Podcast Ep. 227

We had our son first and then our daughter about 2 years after.  And it was different.  I couldn't exactly explain it, but the connection a dad has with his daughter is just different than he has with his son. What I'm about to share with you is what I feel is important.  This is how to be a dad to a daughter First, Focus on her internal value - When you praise or complement your daughter, try to make it about what is inside.  Compliment her on how nice she treats other people, how helpful she is, her abilities or how your daughter shows strength. If you are going comment on something external, then do it on something she has a choice of.  I like those shoes.  That shirt is very colorful. Try to avoid complimenting her on things she doesn't have a choice of her smile, her eyes or her how she looks.  This is important in learning how to be a dad to a daughter. Now listen, I can see the comments now: why is it so wrong to compliment her on how she looks?  Ask yourself a simple question:  what do you want her to value?  Her outward appearance or who she is as a person? If you make it about who she is as a person, she will be fine with her outward appearance. It doesn't work in reverse. Next, Be Mindful of Your Limiting Beliefs - understanding how to be a dad to a daughter is understanding how often we are guilty of putting limitations on them without realizing it: Sure, there are differences in genetics and hormones at an early age which we can often see.  Boys may have stronger visual-spatial abilities so they may push cars around or climb more often. Whereas girls are better at verbal tasks or understanding emotions.  But what we do as parents is we then emphasize those differences by re-enforcing the behavior. We wrestle with our sons and give our daughters dolls. You want to know how to be a dad to a daughter, don't limit what she can do. Next, Teach her that She is in Control - She is in charge of herself.  She is in control of her body, she is in control of her emotions. Let's start with the control of her body - she gets to choose who she gives affection to.  She gets to choose what she does with her body.  She is in control. Nobody else gets to control it. For her emotions - she gets to control what things mean and how things affect her.  I have a video called "Everyone else is responsible for my happiness) which goes over this concept in detail.  Teach her that she is in control.  Other people do not get to control her. The most important thing about How to be a dad to a daughter is to Be the example - how you treat her and her mother effects who she becomes and her views on men.  You want to provide her a positive male role model.

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Getting married and having kids is quite different than being a single dude. Not only does your available free time change, but your stress level increases, the pressure escalates, and we often don't have an outlet for help. The average woman has a circle of friends, family, or online communities where she shares aspects of her life and gets advice, feedback, or at a minimum, the feeling that there are other people going through the same thing. Men don't talk as much, don't want to share as much, and therefore don't really experience the transition the way women do. Our personal struggles and frustrations often go untouched, simply learning how to cope with them ourselves. We think we need to "man up" and deal with it on our own. Whether it is parenting issues, dealing with our relationships, or anything in-between, Dad University is a place where men can know that other guys are going through the same thing. We can help each other and be better fathers and husbands. The Podcast helps dads through the journey of fatherhood as well as provides advice and assistance in relationships.