is it your attachment style, or is it just the wrong relationship? [preview]

Spoiler alert: understanding your attachment style (and everyone else’s for that matter) is not the magical key to solving all your relationship woes. In today’s episode, we’re diving headfirst into the world of attachment theory—a concept that’s taken over TikTok, Instagram, and even dating apps. But is it really the answer we think it is, or just another way to overthink our love lives into obsessive neurosis? Attachment theory started in the 1950s with researchers John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, but lately, it feels like every creator under the sun is capitalizing on it to create short-form content that promises to decode our emotional baggage. We’ll explore why this theory has become the go-to for understanding relationships and whether it’s actually helping or just adding to our confusion. Are we really anxiously or avoidantly attached, or are we just in the wrong relationships? We’ll unpack the hype, reveal the potential pitfalls, and ask the tough questions: Are we pathologizing messy, complicated human experiences and masking real issues with these labels? How do we balance self-reflection with real-world actions to find healthier relationships? Get ready for a raw and real journey into the heart of attachment theory. We’re cutting through the noise to find out if this trend is a genuine breakthrough or just another way to complicate our love lives.TIME STAMPS:00:00 – 35:09.07: PART 1 (Introduction to attachment theory, its origins, key attachment styles – secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized – and the shift from child-caregiver relationships to adult relationships.)35:09.07 – 01:04:14.71: PART 2 (Exploration of the popularity and commercialization of attachment theory, potential issues such as self-deception and misdiagnosis, and practical advice for balancing self-reflection with real-world actions and gut feelings.)Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I don’t want to talk to your personality; I want to talk to your soul. Imagine if your most painful and debilitating mental health symptoms and self-sabotaging behaviors aren’t evidence of 'disorder' or 'dysfunction', but adaptive strategies that once kept you safe. My goal is to help you shift from asking ‘What’s wrong with me?’ to ‘What happened to me?’The word ‘borderline’ in this podcast isn’t about psychiatric labels. It’s about coming back from the inner psychological brink we all experience. Everyone has found themselves on the edge, in that liminal space where the old self falls apart and the new Self emerges. Here, we explore what it means to undergo true emotional alchemy: that ancient and primordial process of falling apart, confronting the underworld of our psyche, and falling back together into someone stronger, wiser, and more whole.Many highly sensitive people who identify with the seemingly never-ending list of diagnostic mental health labels contained within ‘the bible of psychiatry’ (the DSM) share the same underlying sense of being irreparably broken, disconnected from their intuition, and paralyzed by life’s existential questions. I believe the resulting—and perfectly understandable—chronic feelings of emptiness and spiritual starvation are the TRUE causes of our current collective ‘mental health crisis.’ Together, we’ll dive into depth psychology, mythology, human consciousness, critical psychiatry, and the impact of trauma to help you begin the process of emotional alchemy. This exploration will help you get to the root cause of your suffering and free yourself from the toxic shame, limiting beliefs, and mental programming that have kept you locked in the chains of your past.In an era where mental health and spirituality are too often commercialized, I’m not here as a guru with a quick fix to sell you. I don’t believe anyone is ever truly ‘healed’ or ‘cured.’ There is no return to some mythical state of pre-trauma purity, but rather a continuous spiral of unbecoming, unlearning, and transformation. As a fellow seeker, I will be there in your ear, walking alongside you on your path toward wholeness as a sort of parasocial big sister. That, I can promise. By integrating the concepts we explore together, you’ll begin to see that anyone—even you—can come back from the borderline.CRAVING MORE? Visit backfromtheborderline.com to dive into my universe, connect with me, access my Patreon, and discover more about my journey and work. Don’t forget to follow Back from the Borderline so new episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays automatically drop into your podcast feed. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.