is your use of sex as self-harm is sabotaging your relationships?

Many individuals with symptoms of mental health disorders engage in self-harming behaviors, including physical self-mutilation and a lesser-known behavior called "sex as self-harm." In this episode, we dive deep into the link between mental health and intimacy, exploring why people engage in self-harming behaviors and how they impact relationships. We discuss sexual impulsivity, promiscuity, and childhood sexual abuse, as well as the importance of self-love in recovery. We also examine the role that attachment trauma plays in the development of self-harming sexual behaviors across various mental health disorder labels. Join us as we unpack this complex and often misunderstood topic.Topics Covered:• What is "sex as self-harm," and why is it important to talk about?• The link between mental health disorders and self-harming behaviors• How childhood sexual abuse and early sexual exposure can contribute to self-harming sexual behaviors• Understanding sexual impulsivity, preoccupation, and promiscuity• The impact of "high risk" sexual behaviors on mental health• Cultivating self-love in recovery• The core issues of sex and intimacy: impulsivity and victimization• The connection between drinking and impulsive sexual behaviors• How sex as self-harm can be a mask for self-hatred• The role of attachment trauma in the development of self-harming sexual behaviorsJoin me as we shed light on this important topic and offer insights into how to begin healing from the pain and trauma of self-harming sexual behaviors. Resources mentioned: Sexual Behavior in Borderline Personality by Randy A. Sansone and Lori A. SansoneEnjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of exclusive content on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I don’t want to talk to your personality; I want to talk to your soul. Imagine if your most painful and debilitating mental health symptoms and self-sabotaging behaviors aren’t evidence of 'disorder' or 'dysfunction', but adaptive strategies that once kept you safe. My goal is to help you shift from asking ‘What’s wrong with me?’ to ‘What happened to me?’The word ‘borderline’ in this podcast has nothing to do with psychiatric labels. It has everything to do with coming back from the inner psychological brink we all experience. Everyone has found themselves on the edge, in that liminal space where the old self falls apart and the new Self emerges. Here, we explore what it means to undergo true emotional alchemy: that ancient and primordial process of falling apart, confronting the underworld of our psyche, and falling back together into someone stronger, wiser, and more whole.Many highly sensitive people who identify with the seemingly never-ending list of diagnostic mental health labels contained within ‘the bible of psychiatry’ (the DSM) share the same underlying sense of being irreparably broken, disconnected from their intuition, and paralyzed by life’s existential questions. I believe the resulting—and perfectly understandable—chronic feelings of emptiness and spiritual starvation are the TRUE causes of our current collective ‘mental health crisis.’Together, we’ll dive into depth psychology, mythology, human consciousness, critical psychiatry, and the impact of trauma to help you begin the process of emotional alchemy. This exploration will help you get to the root cause of your suffering and free yourself from the toxic shame, limiting beliefs, and mental programming that have kept you locked in the chains of your past.In an era where mental health and spirituality are too often commercialized, I’m not here as a guru with a quick fix to sell you. I don’t believe anyone is ever truly ‘healed’ or ‘cured.’ There is no return to some mythical state of pre-trauma purity, but rather a continuous spiral of unbecoming, unlearning, and transformation. As a fellow seeker, I will be there in your ear, walking alongside you on your path toward wholeness as a sort of parasocial big sister. That, I can promise.By integrating the concepts we explore together, you’ll begin to see that anyone—even you—can come back from the borderline.CRAVING MORE? Visit backfromtheborderline.com to dive into my universe, connect with me, access my Patreon, and discover more about my journey and work. Don’t forget to follow Back from the Borderline so new episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays automatically drop into your podcast feed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.