putting a stop to your endless cycles of self-hatred and toxic shame

Self-hatred and toxic shame can feel like an inescapable prison, especially for those navigating life with complex emotional and psychological struggles. In this episode, we confront the relentless inner critic and the deep-rooted shame that often accompany conditions like BPD, cPTSD, ADHD, and ASD. This isn’t about quick fixes—it’s about finding genuine pathways to break free from the brutal self-judgment that so many of us face alone.We’ll go beyond surface-level advice, diving into Carl Jung’s concept of “the shadow” to explore how hidden parts of ourselves fuel shame and self-loathing. Through the powerful work of shadow integration, you’ll learn how to confront these darker aspects with compassion instead of fear, reclaiming parts of yourself that have been locked away. For those wrestling with splitting, low self-esteem, or intense emotional swings, we’ll discuss how to gently disarm your inner critic and rebuild a relationship with yourself rooted in understanding and empathy.This episode offers a lifeline for anyone feeling crushed by self-hatred—real strategies to help you find release from shame, silence the voice of relentless self-criticism, and finally see yourself through a kinder, more compassionate lens. Join me as we unravel the cycles of shame and self-hatred, offering you tools to create a foundation of self-acceptance and lasting healing.RESOURCES: Teach Your Inner Critic a New Story | Kari RomeoUnderstanding Our Inner Critic - Esther Perel & Dick SchwartzSelf-love, Borderline Personality Disorder & Mending the Divide Between Two (seemingly) Mutually Exclusive EntitiesCraving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I don’t want to talk to your personality; I want to talk to your soul. Imagine if your most painful and debilitating mental health symptoms and self-sabotaging behaviors aren’t evidence of 'disorder' or 'dysfunction', but adaptive strategies that once kept you safe. My goal is to help you shift from asking ‘What’s wrong with me?’ to ‘What happened to me?’The word ‘borderline’ in this podcast has nothing to do with psychiatric labels. It has everything to do with coming back from the inner psychological brink we all experience. Everyone has found themselves on the edge, in that liminal space where the old self falls apart and the new Self emerges. Here, we explore what it means to undergo true emotional alchemy: that ancient and primordial process of falling apart, confronting the underworld of our psyche, and falling back together into someone stronger, wiser, and more whole.Many highly sensitive people who identify with the seemingly never-ending list of diagnostic mental health labels contained within ‘the bible of psychiatry’ (the DSM) share the same underlying sense of being irreparably broken, disconnected from their intuition, and paralyzed by life’s existential questions. I believe the resulting—and perfectly understandable—chronic feelings of emptiness and spiritual starvation are the TRUE causes of our current collective ‘mental health crisis.’Together, we’ll dive into depth psychology, mythology, human consciousness, critical psychiatry, and the impact of trauma to help you begin the process of emotional alchemy. This exploration will help you get to the root cause of your suffering and free yourself from the toxic shame, limiting beliefs, and mental programming that have kept you locked in the chains of your past.In an era where mental health and spirituality are too often commercialized, I’m not here as a guru with a quick fix to sell you. I don’t believe anyone is ever truly ‘healed’ or ‘cured.’ There is no return to some mythical state of pre-trauma purity, but rather a continuous spiral of unbecoming, unlearning, and transformation. As a fellow seeker, I will be there in your ear, walking alongside you on your path toward wholeness as a sort of parasocial big sister. That, I can promise.By integrating the concepts we explore together, you’ll begin to see that anyone—even you—can come back from the borderline.CRAVING MORE? Visit backfromtheborderline.com to dive into my universe, connect with me, access my Patreon, and discover more about my journey and work. Don’t forget to follow Back from the Borderline so new episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays automatically drop into your podcast feed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.