#70 - Two Types of Self-Care & Committing to Both!
Knowing the two types of self-care and practicing both is good for you and everyone around you! Tune in and learn the two types of self-care, why you may be challenged around meeting your self-care needs and how to hold yourself accountable for practicing good self-care. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #70: There are two types of self-care: self-care needs and self-care wants. We learn about self-care first in our family of origin. If some of our needs were neglected as children, we may struggle to practice self-care as an adult and we may pass neglect on to our children. Self-care wants are just as — if not more — important than self-care needs. Use self-care wants as a reward for attending to self-care needs. Commit to at least one self-care want every day, and work your way up to three, or more! Highlights from Episode #70: Welcome to the show! [00:40] A listener inspired this episode with questions about self-care. [00:54] Vicki brings up the issue of self-care and how self-care related to boundaries that we set for ourselves. [02:15] Without setting limits on ourselves, we aren't able to function. [03:09] Setting personal healthy limits creates space for health and well-being. [05:34] Vicki discusses the two categories of self-care, and what the term means. [06:09] We learn about the 11 self-care needs, which are listed below. [06:18] Our parents teach us about self-care through their own behavior and how they parented us. [09:40] We need to be mindful of all 11 self-care needs to teach our children. [11:05] Does self-care feel more like a chore than a joy? [13:22] Vicki speaks about self-care wants, which are activities that we love to do and that we feel good about after we've done them. [14:28] Self-care wants are highly individualized, and self-care looks different for men and women. [17:01] Why self-care wants are just as crucial as needs. [19:56] When our self-care wants are taken care of, we have a buffer that helps us avoid drama and conflict. [21:34] Vicki tells us how to get self-care done. [23:02] Find someone to be your accountability partner to help with your progress. [24:59] To make self-care needs easier to take care of, schedule your appointments in advance and reward yourself when you complete them. [26:24] Commit to a bare minimum of one self-care want each day, and work your way up to at least three. [30:05] Links and Resources: Vicki Tidwell Palmer Episode #34 | Women, Choose Self-Care Over Self-Sacrifice Episode #50 | Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries Episode #55 | Extreme Accountability Pia Mellody Bullet Journal: The Analog Method for the Digital Age Self-Care Needs*: Food Clothing Shelter Physical Nurturing Emotional Nurturing Spiritual Practice Education Money Medical Attention Dental Sexual *From the work of Pia Mellody @ www.piamelody.com