The Perception Gap: Why You don't see yourself the way others see you
Today’s episode is about a topic that resonates with many of us - I’m calling it the perception gap. You might think of it as why we don't always see ourselves the way others do. I’ll explain what causes this phenomenon, including our past identities, perfectionism, and blind spots arising from our inside-out perspective, and reveal powerful strategies to overcome self-critical patterns, channel your inner brilliance and step boldly into the future you deserve. This episode will help you align your self-perception with reality so that you can shift confidently into your next chapter. Let's jump into this enlightening topic! Show Highlights: A new Brilliant Balance intro after seven years. [00:57] What is a perception gap? [04:43] Body dysmorphia and other indicators of perception gaps. [05:26] Are you stuck in an old identity? [10:25] How perfectionism distorts reality. [14:31] Explore the Johari window model. [17:40] The self-criticism and self-punishment cycle. [19:26] The power of practicing self-compassion. [20:20] Define your vision for success. [22:52] How to leverage an alter ego. [25:05] Link to the episode with Todd Herman and the Alter Ego that Cherylanne References: https://brilliant-balance.com/podcast/episode-177-channel-your-inner-superhero-with-author-todd-herman/ Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki Join the Brilliant Balance Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057
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You deserve a big, full life and the freedom to enjoy it. The Brilliant Balance Podcast helps women in leadership design their next chapter for sustainable success—without burnout.
Every week, host Cherylanne Skolnicki, a leading expert in work-life balance, leadership growth, and mindset coaching, shares ideas, inspiration, and insights to help high-achieving women align their ambition with personal fulfillment. Through conversations on leadership mindset, time management, and personal growth, you'll gain the tools to thrive in both your career and personal life.
Whether you're considering a career pivot or craving more time for your personal life, you might find yourself asking:
How do I advance my career—without working 24/7?
Can I achieve my goals while still having time for my family?
How do I stop feeling overwhelmed and start feeling in control?
What’s next for me—and how do I design it intentionally?
If you’ve ever wondered how to fulfill your potential without breaking your life, this podcast is for you. In addition to sharing her own insights, Cherylanne sits down with experts, thought leaders, and ambitious women who reveal their strategies for burnout recovery, productivity for women, and redefining success on their terms.
You’ll love the Brilliant Balance Podcast if you like podcasts like: Unlocking Us or Dare to Lead with Brene Brown, Women at Work by Harvard Business Review, The Midlife with Reshma Saujani, We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle, The Mel Robbins Podcast, HerMoney with Jean Chatzky, So Money with Farnoosh Torabi