But Why Don’t We Feel Motivated? | Self-Determination Theory, Burnout & the Myth of Willpower

Is it burnout, is it capitalism, or are you just lazy? (Spoiler: it’s not the last one.) In this episode, Kristin and Laura unpack what motivation actually is — and why we keep expecting ourselves to push through exhaustion like it’s a personal failure. Guided by Self-Determination Theory (SDT), they explore: • The difference between high vs low quality motivation • Why guilt and shame don't lead to lasting change • How our basic psychological needs shape behavior • What happens when society conflicts with human motivation • Neurodivergence, hyperfocus, and demand avoidance From dishwasher-loading rules to existential dread and fascism, it’s all here. If you’ve ever wondered why you “just can’t make yourself do it,” this episode offers answers — and maybe a little permission to be kinder to yourself.  Socials: https://linktr.ee/butwhy.pod

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Welcome to But Why? — real talk on messy minds and messier systems. Hosted by two psychologists, Kristin and Laura, we dive deep into the psychology of human experience: from mental health and identity to power, culture, and the systems that shape our lives. Expect thoughtful conversations, critical questions, and honest reflections on how people—and the world—really work. No self-help platitudes. No easy answers. Just meaningful, accessible dialogue for curious minds. Topics we explore: • Psychology and mental health • Identity, feminism, and culture • Neurodivergence and lived experience • Systemic power and social change New episodes every week. Subscribe to join the conversation. #PsychologyPodcast #MentalHealth #CultureAndIdentity #RealTalkPodcast