73: Healing Our Inner Child feat. Tallia Deljou
In this episode, we speak with life coach Tallia Deljou, as she talks about the art of “Inner child work” and “Internal Family Systems”. She focuses on how our childhood needs affect our adulthood, why we tend to blame ourselves for the way we feel, the impact of our parents to our childhood, and how we can cope and heal from the wounds of our inner child. [5:31] Inner child work “For me, the inner child work is in understanding the needs that were never met, in those formative years, under the age of 10. When certain needs go unmet, we fill in the blank, and we create beliefs about ourselves.” [13:06] The formative stage “I think the tricky part about the stories that we create when we’re younger, is that we often don’t have the ability to communicate our needs” [24:22] Rewriting our story “…the shift into adulthood for me is where I realized ‘Okay, it’s now my job to fill this need’, ‘It’s now my job to be the parent to myself’, ‘It’s now my job to go inside and heal this wound’. That, I think, was the turning point.” [35:13] Reshaping our memory “Day to day, my work with this inner child part of me is to continuously validate my own feelings…So now I’m like the first to be with myself in those moments and say ‘Yeah, that feeling makes sense’.” [41:57] Parenting and Feedbacks “I think it’s safe to assume that most parents, if not all parents, have an insecurity around the way they parented and if there is something they could have done better and if they did something wrong.” [52:30] In control of feelings “My mom never told me that my feelings didn’t matter; I made that up, because that’s how I interpreted her words or her lack of words.” [1:07:02] Timing is everything “You can’t rush your healing because there’s a lesson that I will only be ready to learn when I’m 40. And I have to let life happen; I have to let time pass for me to be ready to receive that lesson.” Follow Tallia on instagram @talliadeljou Please download, rate & review this episode and share it with friends! Connect with Kelly here: Follow Me on Instagram Follow Me on TikTok Join the ChaseLife with Kelly Community! Apply for 1:1 Private Coaching with Kelly Subscribe to My YouTube Channel Courses & Coaching Kelly’s Favorites Visit Our Website!