10 Things New Dads Don’t Need To Worry About | Dad University Podcast Ep. 254

Having already been through the newborn phase years ago, it’s much easier now to look back and realize how much I worried about specific things related to the baby that I didn’t really need to worry about. At the time so many of these things seemed really important or like they are a big deal when you are dealing with them.  But as I look back I can now say I wish I would have worried less and not really cared so much about these things.  So in this podcast, I’m going over 10 Things New Dads Don’t Need to worry about. Having a baby is like nothing else we have ever experienced.  So I understand the worry.  I’m just trying to help you guys understand that you may not need to spend so much time and effort worrying.   Let’s get to it  1) Messing up - you are going to mess up.    2) Saying No – This doesn’t mean saying no to your child, it means saying no to everyone else.  While there are times you wish life just stopped or at least slowed down for you, everything else is still happening around you.  The difference is that you are dealing with a baby which adds a little   3) Getting Everything - From 3 different strollers depending on the situation, too many toys, monitors, numerous swings and seats....it’s enough. If you have a baby registry, try to focus on things that matter: diapers, food, clothes.   4) What other people think - Your family and friends will have opinions, great, let them have one but don’t let it get to you.  You may have parents or in-laws who may tell you how something should be done.  A great response is “I’ll take that into consideration”.    5) Not getting enough sleep - You will be sleep deprived for a bit and probably be tired but it doesn't last forever.  The baby eventually learns how to sleep.  6) No more ME time –  Whether you want to hang with the guys, exercise, or you have some other hobby, you still can do it.  You just may need to manage your time a little differently.  Maybe cut out some of the TV or screen time.  You would be surprised how much free time frees up.  7) Not Having enough experience – Do you know how many millions of men have become fathers before you.  I don’t know the exact number but it’s a lot.    8) Achieving Milestones – The evaluation of your baby starts right at birth when they tell you how much it weighs and the length.  Then the pediatrician visit will tell you your baby’s head is 95 percentile and the weight is 65.    It’s here we start to worry about when the baby is going to roll over, crawl, then walk. Don’t worry about it.    9) Spoiling the baby – you aren’t going to give the baby too much affection.  There isn’t such thing as holding the baby too much or picking it up when it cries.  Really for the first year,  your attention is all good.  The baby will feel loved, safe, and secure.  There is nothing wrong with that.   10) Bonding with the baby - It can take some time.   I would love to hear from you.  Leave your feedback below!

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Getting married and having kids is quite different than being a single dude. Not only does your available free time change, but your stress level increases, the pressure escalates, and we often don't have an outlet for help. The average woman has a circle of friends, family, or online communities where she shares aspects of her life and gets advice, feedback, or at a minimum, the feeling that there are other people going through the same thing. Men don't talk as much, don't want to share as much, and therefore don't really experience the transition the way women do. Our personal struggles and frustrations often go untouched, simply learning how to cope with them ourselves. We think we need to "man up" and deal with it on our own. Whether it is parenting issues, dealing with our relationships, or anything in-between, Dad University is a place where men can know that other guys are going through the same thing. We can help each other and be better fathers and husbands. The Podcast helps dads through the journey of fatherhood as well as provides advice and assistance in relationships.