123. How (And When) To Start Talking About Sex w/ Vanessa and Xander Marin

In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: mental load and how it can negatively affect your sex life. Follow Vanessa and Xander on IG: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/  Visit Vanessa and Xander’s website: https://vmtherapy.com/  Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Vanessa and Xander: Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who’s here to show you that you don’t need a graduate degree or license to have extraordinary intimacy. Together, they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which is an NYT best seller, and they host the podcast, Pillow Talks, available on all platforms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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No outdated rules. Just honest, thoughtful advice to help you get what you're after in your dating life, and have fun along the way. Dating Intentionally will help you navigate modern dating with clarity, confidence, and purpose. Whether you're dating after a big break up, trying to avoid past mistakes, or just tired of swiping aimlessly, this show will guide you to make decisions that align with your values while actually enjoying the dating process. Hosted by Talia Koren, this show dives into real, practical strategies to help you attract the right matches, build connection, and move toward your dream relationship. Talia shares advice based on her real-life experience of going on 150ish dates with over 60 people in under a year until she met her husband (on Hinge)! You'll hear no-nonsense advice from her and guest experts, therapists, and authors to implement into your dating life today.