101: Chasing Potential And Putting Them On A Pedestal With Silvy Khoucasian

Sabrina and Silvy sit down to discuss what can cause the tendency to chase potential in relationships and put partners on pedestals. They offer practical tips for managing these patterns. Silvy, a relationship coach, reflects on her own journey with fearful-avoidant attachment after a long-term relationship, explaining how unresolved childhood trauma led her to project insecurities and set unrealistic standards. She and her husband learned to recognize their vulnerabilities and communicate better, a skill crucial for those in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Sabrina and Silvy emphasize that placing someone on a pedestal, which is linked to attachment wounds, prevents true intimacy by idealizing a partner and avoiding vulnerability. They explain that this behavior can stem from childhood but becomes harmful in adult relationships, blocking authentic connection. To overcome this, look at relationships objectively, understanding your emotional needs, and communicating honestly, ensuring that your attachment style and role in the dynamic align with healthy, balanced intimacy. Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Get Ad free and 2 Bonus episodes a month HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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The Sabrina Zohar Show is your no-BS guide to dating, relationships, and coming home to yourself. Hosted by @sabrina.zohar, this podcast dives deep into the realities of modern love, anxious attachment, and the personal growth it takes to build meaningful connections- not just with others, but with yourself. Formerly known as “Do The Work” the show is all about cutting through the noise. Whether you’re navigating dating burnout, relationship struggles, or learning how to stop overthinking every text, Sabrina brings raw, unfiltered conversations that challenge your patterns, shift your mindset, and help you reclaim your power. Because the real work isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s also about becoming the version of you that feels whole, secure, and unapologetically authentic. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and watch on YouTube. A podcast on dating, anxiety, and doing the work to heal with @Sabrina.zohar (https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar) . Instagram: @thesabrinazoharshow (https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow) TikTok: @sabrina.zohar (https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar) Instagram- @thesabrinazoharshow (https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow) TikTok- @sabrina.zohar (https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar)