Ep 41: Why You're Not Being Chosen—And How to Change That

If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people… if you're stuck in the same relationship patterns… if you constantly feel unseen, unchosen, or not enough—this episode is for you.Today, I’m joined by self-concept coach Courtney in Savannah for a raw, powerful conversation about the real reason you feel anxious in love. Spoiler: It’s not about them—it’s about your self-concept.We dive into:✨ How your childhood wounds shape who you believe you are in love✨ Why your self-concept creates a loop of rejection, abandonment & chasing✨ How Courtney transformed her marriage by healing her beliefs about being chosen✨ What it actually takes to stop outsourcing love and validation✨ Practical tools you can use today to shift your identity and feel secure in yourselfThis conversation is everything I wish I’d known years ago—and I know it’s going to change the way you see your relationships forever.Because you were never unworthy—you were just taught to believe you were. And it’s time to take your power back.Connect with Courtney on Instagram🎁 FREE GIFT: Want to break free from overthinking?Leave a quick review or rating, screenshot it, and DM me on Instagram @candicetamara_I’ll send you my 4-step method, The Overthinking Cure, for free.👇 Let us know your biggest takeaway—tag me and @courtneyinsavannah on Instagram so we can celebrate you.🔗 Want to go deeper? Here’s your next step:🎓 FREE Masterclass: How to Move from Anxious to Secure in Love➡ ⁠https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/signuptomasterclass⁠💖 Heal Your Anxious Attachment & Become Secure in Love🔥 Join my signature program: Anxious to Secure in Love➡ ⁠https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/copy-of-anxious-to-secure-in-love-1⁠

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The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.