Different Ways Emotional Abusers Don't Take Responsibility for Their Behavior [169]
"He wants to treat me better. He just doesn’t know how." "He says he’s sorry. He really hates how he acts." "He’s struggling. He can’t help it." Do you have these thoughts about your husband? Have these thoughts led to anything good? More peace? Change (on his part)? Hope that lasts? A better marriage? A never-ending bucket of fried chicken? Didn’t think so. I have some other thoughts to offer. You can take them or leave them. They might seem cynical and hopeless on the surface. But I believe they’re the means to all the things you’re hoping for…except one. This episode comes with not one but two guarantees: Adults have 100% control over their behavior. And you have a 0% chance of making someone grow or change when they don’t want to. The episode highlight reel: - Why acknowledging wrongdoing means nothing (if the wrongdoer is abusive) - Why his apologies mean squat (if the behavior continues) - Why WHAT he’s doing matters and WHY he’s doing it means next to nothing - Why saying he wants to grow means bupkes (if he doesn’t) - Why an abuser giving “God’s” advice has zero authority - Why your opinion on all of this matters and everybody’s else’s means zip Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/169 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com