Fucking Feelings: The Attunement Model of Consent

In Episode 56, we announce that Fucking Cancelled has moved to substack! Please follow us fuckingcancelled.substack.com if you haven’t already, and consider becoming a supporter of the pod for $5 Canadian a month. You’ll get a bunch of bonus content and help keep the podcast alive! After this announcement we discuss Clementine’s attunement model of consent, which she wrote about in her zine, The Forgotten Art of Fucking. This model includes: attunement, shared responsibility, mixed styles of communication, valuing the erotic, and recognizing the inherent risk in sexuality. Clementine offers this model as an alternative to the contractual model of consent that defines consent only as ongoing verbal asking throughout sex.Part of the Fucking Feelings series.Show NotesConsent for people's real sex lives where we don't sound like robotsThe Forgotten Art of FuckingTalking Shit with Zachary Zane: Sex is a Huge Part of My SexualityRefusing to be Accountable: Responsibility, Boundaries, Intervention and PunishmentFollow Fucking Cancelled on Instagram.Find merch in our shop.ClementineMorrigan.comJayLesoleil.comFucking CancelledTheme song by ST x LIAM.Mixing and editing by Charlotte Dora.Jay Lesoleil is a writer, artist, and shelter worker from Montréal with a background in political anthropology. Jay is also one half of the podcast Fucking Cancelled.Clementine Morrigan is a socialist-feminist writer, educator, and public intellectual based in Montréal, Canada. She writes popular and controversial essays about culture, politics, sexuality, and trauma. A passionate believer in independent media, she’s been making zines since the year 2000 and is the author of several books. She’s known for her iconic white-text-on-a-black-background mini-essays on Instagram. One of the leading voices on the Canadian Left and one half of the Fucking Cancelled podcast, Clementine is an outspoken critic of cancel culture and proponent of building solidarity across difference. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.fuckingcancelled.com/subscribe

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Fucking Cancelled is a podcast with three aims. First, we analyze and critique a phenomenon on the left that we call the nexus: a synthesis of identitarianism, social media, and cancel culture. Second, we offer emotional, spiritual, and ethical insights into the process of rejecting and exiting the nexus. Third, we move toward a different vision for the left grounded in solidarity, freedom, and responsibility. We are leftists who have spent many years inside the nexus. We have been too afraid to critique it and we have suffered the consequences of critiquing it. We know all too well the destructive impact the nexus has on our communities, our movements, our spiritual, emotional, and mental health, and our capacity to be responsible, ethical actors. We are also recovering addicts who live our lives by a set of spiritual and ethical principles which are starkly at odds with the rules of the nexus. We offer these principles as a guiding light toward a different left. Fucking Cancelled is a podcast for anyone who feels stifled or trapped by the authoritarian, punishing culture that dominates the left. It’s a podcast for anyone who is too afraid to say what they really think. It’s a podcast for people who have been cancelled, who are afraid of getting cancelled, or who have taken part in the cancellation of others and wondered if it was right. Fucking Cancelled is a podcast for leftists who dream of a left grounded in solidarity, freedom, and responsibility, rather than coercion, authoritarianism, and punishment. www.fuckingcancelled.com