Episode 103: Dealing with Imperfectionists
Negotiations can be difficult when one person is a perfectionist and the other isn't. In this episode, Shannon and Janine address a question from a listener who is trying to work with an imperfectionist neighbor to replace a fence between their yards. Discussion topics include: • The gifts that our pets give us • The challenges of maximizers working with satisficers • How Shannon and her neighbor dealt with a similar situation through clear communication and knowing what was important to them • The value of thinking through what really matters and writing them down • Another fence situation Shannon had with a different neighbor that also hinged on clear communication • Recognizing when entering negotiations with people of differing sensibilities that you can’t expect to get 100% of what you want • Knowing the top two or three things that are most important to you and communicating them up front • Shannon’s advice to write down your top concerns, but not hide behind the written word • Would you rather be right or happy? • Communicating from a place of kindness • Finding out what’s important to the other person so everyone’s needs are met