Episode 98: Stop With the Shoulds
In this episode, recorded in early March before the COVID-19 crisis started keeping us at home, Janine and Shannon discuss one of their least favorite words, "should." Discussion topics include: • Janine’s delight that her RootsTech talk is behind her and her admiration at how well organized RootsTech is • How “shoulds” can weigh you down • That should is one of Janine’s least favorite words, and one that she tries not to use with her clients • How should can sneak into one’s self talk • The judgmental, mean nature of the word should • Thinking about words you can substitute for should • The irony that people think that Shannon and Janine tell their clients what to do • Recognizing resistance when you bristle at the word should • Getting in touch with why something is important to you to get past resistance • Allowing yourself to move forward with that information • Newsflash: There are no bonus points for making something more difficult than it needs to be • Letting go of preconceived ideas about the right way to do something • Figuring out how you can get things done with as much ease as possible • Editing the shoulds out of our to-do lists • Choosing to do things rather than feeling you should do them • Putting yourself back in a place of choice