113: Trauma and Mental Health - Karen Stefano, Author - What a Body Remembers

Karen StefanoA defence lawyer and an author. Her recent book, What a Body Remembers: A Memoir of Sexual Assault and Its Aftermath, looks back at the events where she was assaulted in college, went on to become a criminal defense attorney, and 30 years later was hit with anxiety and PTSD.Our guest was assaulted near her home in Berkeley, CA, after a late-night walk home from a shift as a Berkeley police department aide. Her assailant was charged with assault with a deadly weapon but was ultimately acquitted of the crime.Karen got no justice from her case. The assault and the traumatizing experience of not being believed in the courtroom as a woman in need of help, had her understanding why such predicament has happened to her.Karen shows how there are many ways to heal from trauma, that the path is not always straightforward, but usually more of a two steps forward, four steps back process.What a Body Remembers is a powerful book about hope and the capacity to heal.Karen Stefano and What a Body Remembersstefanokaren.com (http://stefanokaren.com/)What a Body Remembers: A Memoir of Sexual Assault and Its Aftermath (https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Body-Remembers-Assault-Aftermath/dp/B07SG12JZ4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=X21I61LHY8XI&dchild=1&keywords=what+a+body+remembers&qid=1591036779&s=books&sprefix=what+a+body+remem%2Caudible%2C324&sr=1-1)Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/karen.stefano.5)Twitter (www.twitter.com/kstefano1)ABOUT THE HOSTMy name is Sam Harris. I am a British entrepreneur, investor and explorer. From hitchhiking across Kazakstan to programming AI doctors I am always pushing myself in the spirit of curiosity and Growth. My background is in Biology and Psychology with a passion for improving the world and human behaviour. I have built and sold companies from an early age and love coming up with unique ways to make life more enjoyable and meaningful.Sam:Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/samjamsnaps/)Quora (https://www.quora.com/profile/Sam-Harris-58)Twitter (https://twitter.com/samharristweets)LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharris48/)Sam's blog - SamWebsterHarris.com (https://samwebsterharris.com/)Support the Show - Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/growthmindset)Top TipsAllow yourself to healNo matter how much you want it to happen, healing doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time and patience. Give yourself room to breathe. It doesn’t mean that it will immediately change things, but it will definitely give you a clearer perspective on everything that is going on around you.Begin the process of letting your painful emotions come and go. Slow down and tune in to our experience so we can find the silver lining. Remember, healing is a process that happens step by step, day by day, so please don’t rush yourself.Practice positive self-talkSelf-talk is the dialogue you have with yourself, and that's pretty common. Often, self-talk is referred to as giving ourselves instructions while we carry out a task, random observations about our environment or a situation.Self-talk can be both negative and positive. Much of your self-talk depends on your personality. If you’re an optimist, your self-talk is more hopeful and positive. If you're a pessimist, your self-talk could be "toxic" and depressing.Our self-talk can have an influence on the way we see ourselves, and the world around us. Learn to shift that inner dialogue. It can help you be a more positive person, and it may improve your health - mind, body and spirit.It's ok to seek helpMany people who hesitate to seek help struggle in silence. Some people hide their condition so well that loved ones or the people around them may be unaware they are going through something.There is no shame in seeking help. The most important thing you can do is reach out to someone. You may be surprised at how many people can share their own stories of struggles. But what's more important is that they will also be able to share how they overcame it.We are not alone. We are love and we are loved.SyncifyAn app that lets you be social at a distance. Listen to your favourite podcasts and books together with friends and groups.Chat about the audio experiences as you share and learn from other users' perspectives. Commit to taking actions by sharing your ideas.To learn more, visit (www.syncifyapp.com)Subscribe!If you enjoyed the podcast please subscribe and rate it. And of course, share with your friends! Special Guest: Karen Stefano. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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There are a lot of opinions on how to master your mind, but then there’s PSYCHOLOGY. We’re all stuck with the brain we’re born with, but we aren’t stuck with how we use it. Learn science-backed answers to make the most of your mind and your life. CURIOUS? Growth Mindset Psychology is the "self-help sceptic" podcast for the curious. Whether you want to improve performance, navigate setbacks, or know who you are. We find answers to the true science of self-improvement. So put down the astrology chart and start working with your mind, instead of against it. With over 8 million downloads and 60,000 monthly listeners, you’re invited to join. PROCESS Instead of telling you what to think, we discuss how thinking works. Armed with a stack of science journals, textbooks and a boatload of curiosity, we uncover the mechanics of the mind. Why? >>> Success is personal! You might want to make the most of your neurodiverse strengths, start a business, or simply find more reasons to smile. Hone your ability for independent thinking and growth with mental models to pursue your definition of success. HOST I’m Sam Webster Harris, a lifelong learner with ADHD, a raging curiosity, and an obsession with finding answers to hard questions. After launching several businesses, travelling the world and nearly dying a few times I concluded that science and Psychology are where it’s at. What actually makes people happy? What’s the best way to treat a brain? How can I get more done? Studying the answers we find that changing behaviours requires building mindsets, mental models, and a healthy relationship with failure. I run the show to help listeners enjoy nutritious content that feeds their minds (and I needed a legitimate excuse to cover for my reading addiction). PREMIUM Go Ad-Free and listen to exclusive content. Support the show and access the AMA features and community Discord. Growth Mindset Premium ARCHIVE Previous guests include Olympians, Scientists, Billionaires, and Sam's Mum. Past series: — Psychology vs Stoicism — Time Management for busy mortals — Independence and knowing yourself — Cognitive biases and rational thinking — Psychology of connection — Carol Dweck and the Multiverse of Mindsets