We are often told we are the product of the 5 people we spend the most time with. This episode explores the cases where this isn't true and what we can learn from examining the relationships we have.
We learn that actually, the most significant effect is from those that prevent us from being ourselves. Otherwise, we are free to choose the qualities we are inspired by regardless of how much time we spend with people.
Questions to reflect on
What are my strengths? When do I feel like I am being myself?
I am putting my energy directly into the thing I want to do or is it postponed for some reason?
Is there a faster way to reach the lifestyle I want?
Who are my idols? Why do I look up to them? Could I have better idols?
Who are 5 cool but very different friends to me, what would they tell me to do?
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Timestamps
00:00 - What is a growth mindset
00:20 - You are not the 5 people you spend time with
01:00 - Be yourself
01:23 - The skier parable
04:08 - Don't be blocked from being yourself
04:40 - Best friends
06:30 - Opposite can work
08:50 - Choose your inspiration
09:36 - Small encounters can have butterfly effects
10:53 - Prioritise healthy relationships
11:30 - Avoid being generic groups/cliques
12:08 - Sahil Lavingia and GumRoad
13:53 - Variety is the spice of life
14:53 - Questions to journal on (see above)
16:05 - Life tips
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Previous guests include Olympians, Scientists, Billionaires, and Sam's Mum.
Past series:
— Psychology vs Stoicism
— Time Management for busy mortals
— Independence and knowing yourself
— Cognitive biases and rational thinking
— Psychology of connection
— Carol Dweck and the Multiverse of Mindsets