Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met

How often do you say no? In this episode, I unpack the beautiful mess that is boundary-setting—with stories, psychology, and a touch of Brexit. This episode dives deep into what it really means to assert your needs. Boundaries aren’t about building walls—they’re more like installing a front door with a lock you actually use. We explore why people-pleasing kills self-respect, how resentment creeps in when you’re too “nice,” and why your future depends on the limits you’re willing to draw today. What you’ll take away: 10 signs of poor boundaries How to spot a weak boundary before it drains your energy Why saying no can be the kindest thing you do You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate How to identify emotional manipulation in everyday relationships A quadrant model that makes difficult conversations easier Listen now if you’re ready to stop being agreeable and start being respected. AD-FREE with ⁠Premium⁠: 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs + Bonus content 💬 Community Discord ⁠GrowthMindset.Supercast.com⁠ Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met Chapters: 00:00 Setting boundaries for how you want to be treated 02:58 Boundaires in life Example 05:10 Why boundaries need balance 07:19 10 signs of poor boundaries 07:35 Difficulty making decisions 07:58 Feeling selfish for saying no 08:18 Frequent apologizing 08:49 Uncertainty about what to share 09:13 Passive aggressiveness 09:49 Losing sense of self 10:10 Need for external validation 10:26 Resentment 10:43 Constant sense of fatigue 11:02 Dramatic relationships 11:34 Abusive situations 15:03 Identifying crap boundaries 15:14 Floppy boundary 17:22 Rigid boundary 19:10 Why we struggle with boundaries 23:09 Creating healthy boundaries 23:39 Personal boundaries 24:07 Social boundaries 25:24 Value-based boundaries 26:43 Communicating boundaries 28:25 Traffic light framework 31:58 The importance of independence 34:41 Book suggestions 35:22 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Most self-help advice is guesswork dressed up as wisdom. We dig into psychology, neuroscience, and behavioral science to find what actually changes lives. WHY LISTEN? Over 8 million downloads because we answer the questions that matter: How do I build mental strength? What creates lasting motivation? How can I understand my own mind well enough to work with it, not against it? This podcast is for curious skeptics who want frameworks backed by psychology studies, not Instagram quotes. Whether you're navigating procrastination, building self-discipline, or designing your own philosophy for a life well lived—we explore the hidden psychology behind real change. WHAT YOU'LL GET Mental models and simple techniques from cognitive psychology, positive psychology, and ancient wisdom traditions like Stoicism and Buddhism. Being a human can be confusing, learning about it doesn’t have to be. We cover everything from emotional intelligence and habit formation to brain health and the nervous system. WHAT YOU DON’T GET No pseudoscience. No oversimplified "hacks." No hustle porn. Just practical insights on mindset improvement, self-development, and human psychology that respect your intelligence and mental health. THE APPROACH Instead of telling you what to think, we explore how thinking works. Armed with psychology studies, social science research, and relentless curiosity, we uncover the mechanics of belief change, attitude change, and personal development. Success is personal. You might want to leverage your neurodiverse strengths, build a business, or simply discover how to be happier. We provide the mental frameworks to pursue your definition of success with mental strength and self-care that fits your life. YOUR HOST I'm Sam Webster Harris—a lifelong learner with ADHD and an obsession with finding answers to hard questions. After launching businesses, traveling the world, and nearly dying a few times, I concluded that psychology and science are where real wisdom lives. This show is my excuse to dive deep into health and fitness research, behavioral psychology, and cool science while helping you build genuine self-discipline and motivation. PREMIUM Go ad-free and access exclusive content, AMAs, and our community Discord. Growth Mindset Premium PAST SERIES Previous guests include Olympians, Scientists, Billionaires, and Sam's Mum. Past series: — Psychology vs Stoicism — Time Management for Busy Mortals — Independence and Knowing Yourself — Cognitive Biases and Rational Thinking — Psychology of Connection and Relationships — Carol Dweck and the Multiverse of Mindsets — Addiction and Behaviour Change — Nervous System Mastery and Polyvagal Theory — Mental Strength and Self-Discipline