The Loneliness Paradox: Why Independence is Key to Connection

Explore the dynamic interplay between solitude and connection in our latest episode on the Loneliness Paradox. This episode provides insights into overcoming the fear of loneliness, and creating a more peaceful self-assured independence and self-awareness to foster stronger emotional intimacy. Through discussions on the psychology of understanding love and the benefits of independence in love, we offer listeners a guide to cultivating fulfilling relationships that thrive on both togetherness and individuality. Instead of fearing loneliness, we can turn solitude into a strength. We’ll use core growth mindset strategies to work on our relationship with ourselves to then employ strategies to work on our relationships with others. - - - Sponsor - Better Help Online therapy can boost you on your way to being your best self. 10% off at Betterhelp.com/GROWTHMINDSET - - - Sponsor - LinkedIn Jobs Advertise your job to the world's largest pool of professionals, for free! Linked.com/Growth - - - Growth mindset podcastHost Sam Webster Harris explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create. Watch the pod - YouTube (Growth Mindset) - - - Title: The Loneliness Paradox: Why Independence is Key to Connection Chapters:00:00 The dichotomy of friendship 02:49 Fear of loneliness problems 03:34 Poor choices 04:00 Compunding small problems 04:30 Weakness in asserting our needs 04:53 Learned helplessness 05:26 Loss of freedom 05:45 Disconnection from ourself 06:06 Acceptance of mediocrity 07:10 Forgiveness and evolution in friendships 09:03 Bearing witness 10:21 Ad - BetterHelp 11:34 Ad - Linked In 12:46 Adopting a growth mindset 18:05 How to build healthy long-term relationships 18:37 Communication strategies 20:03 Express appreciation more often 20:46 Deepening our understanding 22:30 Creating shared experiences 24:21 Trust yourself and take that leap forward Topics:benefits of independence in love embracing solitude for personal growth active listening techniques for couples expressing gratitude in romantic relationships shared experiences that bond partners deep conversations with your partner tips how to be vulnerable with loved ones creating meaningful traditions in relationships importance of friendship in marriage overcoming the fear of loneliness growth mindset in romantic relationships psychology of building strong connections navigating the balance between independence and intimacy strengthening relationships through self-awareness the role of psychology in understanding love cultivating a healthy relationship with oneself ways to enhance emotional intimacy strategies for effective communication in love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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There are a lot of opinions on how to master your mind, but then there’s PSYCHOLOGY. We’re all stuck with the brain we’re born with, but we aren’t stuck with how we use it. Learn science-backed answers to make the most of your mind and your life. CURIOUS? Growth Mindset Psychology is the "self-help sceptic" podcast for the curious. Whether you want to improve performance, navigate setbacks, or know who you are. We find answers to the true science of self-improvement. So put down the astrology chart and start working with your mind, instead of against it. With over 8 million downloads and 60,000 monthly listeners, you’re invited to join. PROCESS Instead of telling you what to think, we discuss how thinking works. Armed with a stack of science journals, textbooks and a boatload of curiosity, we uncover the mechanics of the mind. Why? >>> Success is personal! You might want to make the most of your neurodiverse strengths, start a business, or simply find more reasons to smile. Hone your ability for independent thinking and growth with mental models to pursue your definition of success. HOST I’m Sam Webster Harris, a lifelong learner with ADHD, a raging curiosity, and an obsession with finding answers to hard questions. After launching several businesses, travelling the world and nearly dying a few times I concluded that science and Psychology are where it’s at. What actually makes people happy? What’s the best way to treat a brain? How can I get more done? Studying the answers we find that changing behaviours requires building mindsets, mental models, and a healthy relationship with failure. I run the show to help listeners enjoy nutritious content that feeds their minds (and I needed a legitimate excuse to cover for my reading addiction). PREMIUM Go Ad-Free and listen to exclusive content. Support the show and access the AMA features and community Discord. Growth Mindset Premium ARCHIVE Previous guests include Olympians, Scientists, Billionaires, and Sam's Mum. Past series: — Psychology vs Stoicism — Time Management for busy mortals — Independence and knowing yourself — Cognitive biases and rational thinking — Psychology of connection — Carol Dweck and the Multiverse of Mindsets