Psychology's guide to 18 oddities of desire

Navigating the great paradoxes of the heart. What if everything we believed about perfect relationships was exactly what held us back from creating meaningful ones? Consider a few classic paradoxes: In our quest for closeness, we often create distance Distance often brings you closer Your partner's annoying habits, might actually be their best qualities.... This episode explores the delicate threads that weave together seemingly contradictory truths in relationships, Key topics: Learn to identify when your "weaknesses" are actually relationship superpowers Stop trying to fix your relationship and start understanding its paradoxes Why being "needy" isn't always bad (and why pretending you're not is worse) Get real about what healthy conflict actually looks like These paradoxes aren't problems to solve, but gateways to understanding the profound complexity of human connection. Time to stop chasing perfection and start building something real. Your next breakthrough in understanding relationships isn't in resolving these paradoxes – it's in learning to dance with them. Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: The Matrix of Modern Love: Psychology's Guide to 18 Relationship Mysteries Chapters: 00:00 Strength through vulnerability 02:43 The closest cuts are the Deepest 04:05 Disgusting is Delightful 05:14 Craving for attention vs. repulsing against it 06:54 Distance breeds Closeness 07:44 Unity Needs Conflict 08:36 Accepting vs Growing a Partner 10:17 Imperfect is perfect 11:16 Reality vs Expectations 12:56 Equality and diversity 14:49 Relationships are not easy 15:39 Selfishness to be altruistic 17:14 Nurture Transparency and Privacy 18:45 Paradox of Commitment for Freedom 19:42 Comfort vs passion 20:50 Independence vs Interdependence 21:56 Life is beautiful but cruel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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There are a lot of opinions on how to master your mind, but then there’s PSYCHOLOGY. We’re all stuck with the brain we’re born with, but we aren’t stuck with how we use it. Learn science-backed answers to make the most of your mind and your life. CURIOUS? Growth Mindset Psychology is the "self-help sceptic" podcast for the curious. Whether you want to improve performance, navigate setbacks, or know who you are. We find answers to the true science of self-improvement. So put down the astrology chart and start working with your mind, instead of against it. With over 8 million downloads and 60,000 monthly listeners, you’re invited to join. PROCESS Instead of telling you what to think, we discuss how thinking works. Armed with a stack of science journals, textbooks and a boatload of curiosity, we uncover the mechanics of the mind. Why? >>> Success is personal! You might want to make the most of your neurodiverse strengths, start a business, or simply find more reasons to smile. Hone your ability for independent thinking and growth with mental models to pursue your definition of success. HOST I’m Sam Webster Harris, a lifelong learner with ADHD, a raging curiosity, and an obsession with finding answers to hard questions. After launching several businesses, travelling the world and nearly dying a few times I concluded that science and Psychology are where it’s at. What actually makes people happy? What’s the best way to treat a brain? How can I get more done? Studying the answers we find that changing behaviours requires building mindsets, mental models, and a healthy relationship with failure. I run the show to help listeners enjoy nutritious content that feeds their minds (and I needed a legitimate excuse to cover for my reading addiction). PREMIUM Go Ad-Free and listen to exclusive content. Support the show and access the AMA features and community Discord. Growth Mindset Premium ARCHIVE Previous guests include Olympians, Scientists, Billionaires, and Sam's Mum. Past series: — Psychology vs Stoicism — Time Management for busy mortals — Independence and knowing yourself — Cognitive biases and rational thinking — Psychology of connection — Carol Dweck and the Multiverse of Mindsets