#9 - Embracing the Lows

Jaemin and Gabe discuss embracing the lows of life, as well as manscaping, banishing phones from bedrooms, an easier way to call your representatives, updates on Jaemin's online dating life, and more! Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com ### Show Notes (4:20) **Deep Dive: Embracing the Lows** (6:20) Interview with [Allie Lapidus](http://www.allielapidus.com/) on having to take a retail makeup job that she was resisting for years – and how it ended up being exactly what she needed. (9:40) What makes lows such powerful growth catalysts? (11:50) Jaemin’s low story: struggling with severe hypothyroidism for 6 months and becoming a monk on a mountaintop. (15:25) How lows force you to carve out your own unique path – and help you become a teacher for others. (17:32) Is there way to smooth out the crashes between highs and lows? (22:53) Strategies on dealing with lows when they come up. (26:53) How helpful a therapist can be (and how annoying it can be to find the right one). (31:26) **Quick Picks** Gabe’s #1: Buy an old school alarm clock (and keep your phone out of the bedroom). (35:07) Jaemin’s #1: Easily call your representatives with the [5 Calls](https://5calls.org/) app. (39:18) Gabe’s #2: Two pop culture recommendations: a podcast called [Longform](https://longform.org/podcast) and a graphic novel called [Saga](https://www.amazon.com/Saga-Book-One-Brian-Vaughan/dp/1632150786/). > – [Watchmen](https://www.amazon.com/Watchmen-Alan-Moore/dp/1401219268/) > – [Maus](https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Maus-Art-Spiegelman/dp/0679406417/) (43:05) Jaemin’s #2: Getting a bodyhair trimmer ([Philips Norelco Bodygroom](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0037HP9OA/)). (44:36) Gabe’s #3: [Recomendo](http://recomendo.com/) weekly newsletter. (46:33) Jaemin’s #3: [Master of None](https://www.netflix.com/title/80049714) S2 (Netflix). > – Master of None “Thanksgiving” [episode recap](http://www.avclub.com/tvclub/master-nones-thanksgiving-presents-one-best-coming-255989 "Link: http://www.avclub.com/tvclub/master-nones-thanksgiving-presents-one-best-coming-255989") > – Kumail Nanjiani’s [The Big Sick](http://www.thebigsickmovie.com/) > – [Hasan Minhaj: Homecoming King](https://www.netflix.com/title/80134781 "Link: https://www.netflix.com/title/80134781") **Find Us Online** [Gabe’s twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose) > – Gabe’s latest post: [“Simple Lifehack: Banishing the Phone From the Bedroom””](http://www.gaberose.com/blog/simple-lifehack-banishing-the-phone-from-the-bedroom) > > > [Jaemin’s twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi) > > > > – Jaemin’s latest post: [“The Relationship Theory that Melted My Cold Heart”](http://www.jaeminyi.com/relationship-theory-that-melted-my-cold-heart/) Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/)

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Jaemin and Gabe are childhood friends whose lives went in radically different directions. Jaemin dove into spirituality, nomadism, and communal living - while Gabe organized political movements, read nerdy history books, and got married. Yet they’ve always been able to meet somewhere in the middle and learn from each other’s journeys. Join Guys with Feelings as they continue their lifelong exploration of the ideas, influences, epiphanies, and yes – the feelings – that make them better men. Find all episodes and show notes at [guyswithfeelings.co](http://guyswithfeelings.co) Email us at guyswithfeelingsshow@gmail.com