Anx. Attch. in Friendships: People-Pleasing, and the Fear of Being Replaced
We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship?
If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you.
In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jealousy, and the pain of feeling replaceable. We also look at deeper patterns—like recreating dynamics with your mother or sister, using male friendships as emotional placeholders, and disappearing from your friends when a new love interest enters the picture.
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⏱️ Timestamps
Note: These are approximate and meant to help listeners follow the flow.
00:00 – Intro & why this topic matters
02:15 – What anxious attachment in friendship actually looks like
05:50 – How to tell if you're over-functioning or emotionally over-relying on a friend
09:30 – The mother/sister dynamic in female friendships
13:20 – Male friendships as placeholders for father wounds
16:45 – The quiet pattern of abandoning your friends for romance
20:30 – Self-reflection and starting to shift these patterns
23:00 – Invitation to go deeper inside Becoming Secure
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