How to Feel Secure on Valentine’s Day (Single or in Relationship)

Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot—comparison, overthinking, and that deep desire to be chosen. In this episode, we’re unpacking why V-Day feels so triggering for anxiously attached women and how to shift from chasing love to attracting it—starting with yourself.

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Here’s what we cover in this episode:

💔 How anxious attachment amplifies fears of rejection & abandonment on romantic holidays

📱 The IG highlight reel vs. reality (with real life examples)

🚫 Why Hollywood’s “grand gestures” & perfect Valentine’s fantasy are messing with your self-worth

✨ The shift from chasing love to becoming magnetic to it

💖 A guide to self-love rituals and choosing yourself first

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you feel more secure, grounded, and worthy—no external validation required. 💫

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A podcast on Healing Anxious Attachment. I unpack the myths that keep you from healing, and share the road map and tools to become securely attached in love and life. Prepare to feel supported, resourced, and held as you learn about anxious attachment and what it actually looks like to heal. Send me your shifts, insights, or lightbulb moments! To go deeper: Join the Becoming Secure Community for tools, teachings, and practices to become more self confident, self-connected and secure in relationships. https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about Connect with me on insta: https://www.instagram.com/johhhannamaria/