Healing I'm broken, I can't trust anyone, If I don't get close I can't get hurt and I'm not worthy of love

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I’m Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. Love avoidance often gets mistaken for independence, but in truth, it’s another face of codependency — a strategy to control connection and protect ourselves from pain. In this episode, I’m unpacking three core beliefs that keep love-avoidant patterns alive: I can’t trust anyone, If I don’t get close, I can’t get hurt, and I am not worthy of love. We’ll explore how these beliefs form — often from early abandonment, betrayal, or a deep mistrust of others — and how they quietly dictate the way we choose partners, keep people at arm’s length, or test whether they’ll chase us. I’ll share why walling off isn’t the safety net we think it is, but a self-imposed cage that limits intimacy, joy, and real connection. This conversation is about awareness, compassion, and the courage to take contrary action: to open the gates, to allow closeness without giving up yourself, and to risk being loved for who you truly are. You’ll leave with reflection questions and practices to help you step out from behind the walls and into relationships that feel safe because you are safe inside yourself. Learn more at www.healwithalchemy.com Email me your story submissions, questions or thoughts at marisa@healwithalchemy.com Follow me on Instagram at @soulalchemyhealing Join me in Sedona this November for Awakening Woman Retreat

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Why do we keep abandoning ourselves in the name of love? Why do we say yes when we mean no, swallow words that ache to be spoken, or feel responsible for keeping everyone else happy — even at the cost of our own peace? Healing Our Relationships is a podcast for anyone who’s ever felt trapped in the patterns of codependency and wondered if there’s another way. I’m Marisa — healer, transformation guide, and someone who’s walked my own long road from self-abandonment to self-trust. In this space, I come as a teacher, guide, and fellow traveler. Together, we’ll explore: What codependency really is — beyond the clinical definitions and clichés How these patterns begin in childhood and live in our nervous systems How to start the healing journey with compassion rather than shame Tools for grounding, boundaries, and somatic awareness Practices for reconnecting to your body, your truth, and your spirit The intersection of spirituality and emotional healing How to move from survival into real connection — first with yourself, and then with others This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a space to breathe, reflect, and remember who you are beneath the patterns that once kept you safe. Alongside these episodes, I also hold a monthly Healing Our Relationships circle live on Zoom — a place for community, sharing, and deeper healing. You’ll find details and more resources on my HealSpace app, where I share guided meditations, teachings, and sacred tools to support your journey. If you’re ready to understand why you do what you do — and how to come home to yourself — I invite you to join me. Together, we’ll explore how to move from codependency to freedom, wholeness, and true connection. Subscribe and let’s begin.