How Trauma Responses Shape Codependency

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I’m Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide.  In our first episode, we talked about noticing the ways we abandon ourselves to feel loved, safe, or chosen. But awareness alone can leave us wondering… Why do I keep doing this, even when I know better? In this episode, I want to help you understand why codependency runs so deep. We’ll explore how these patterns don’t just live in our minds — they live in our bodies and our nervous systems. I’ll share how many of us learned, even as children, that our safety and worth depended on keeping others happy, reading the room, and shape-shifting to avoid conflict or rejection. I’ll talk about: How codependency is actually a survival response, not a personality flaw Real-life examples of how these patterns begin in childhood Clues that your nervous system might still be stuck in old survival modes Moments from my own journey of learning to come back to myself I’ll also leave you with reflection questions to help you gently explore where these patterns might still be living in your life and in your body. This work is not about blaming ourselves for the past — it’s about understanding how brilliant and adaptive we were, and how we can now choose something new. Thanks for being here with me. Let’s keep walking this journey — together.

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Why do we keep abandoning ourselves in the name of love? Why do we say yes when we mean no, swallow words that ache to be spoken, or feel responsible for keeping everyone else happy — even at the cost of our own peace? Healing Our Relationships is a podcast for anyone who’s ever felt trapped in the patterns of codependency and wondered if there’s another way. I’m Marisa — healer, transformation guide, and someone who’s walked my own long road from self-abandonment to self-trust. In this space, I come as a teacher, guide, and fellow traveler. Together, we’ll explore: What codependency really is — beyond the clinical definitions and clichés How these patterns begin in childhood and live in our nervous systems How to start the healing journey with compassion rather than shame Tools for grounding, boundaries, and somatic awareness Practices for reconnecting to your body, your truth, and your spirit The intersection of spirituality and emotional healing How to move from survival into real connection — first with yourself, and then with others This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a space to breathe, reflect, and remember who you are beneath the patterns that once kept you safe. Alongside these episodes, I also hold a monthly Healing Our Relationships circle live on Zoom — a place for community, sharing, and deeper healing. You’ll find details and more resources on my HealSpace app, where I share guided meditations, teachings, and sacred tools to support your journey. If you’re ready to understand why you do what you do — and how to come home to yourself — I invite you to join me. Together, we’ll explore how to move from codependency to freedom, wholeness, and true connection. Subscribe and let’s begin.