From Micro-Betrayals to Emotional Neglect in your Marriage - with Matthew Fray

In this episode, I sit down with Matthew Fray, a relationship coach and author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends". He leans on the lessons of his failed marriage and divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes he did.     Together, we discuss the importance of mindful validation and communication in marriages. He shares his insights on how small actions can lead to bigger messages and the impact of emotional neglect and micro-betrayals in relationships. Matthew also shares tips on how to embrace uncomfortable conversations and work towards conflict resolution in a marriage.     In this episode, we discuss:  The common struggle between communication and validation when there is a problem   Inadvertently delivering a message through small actions and the long term effects   How to get over your defensive and invalidating tendencies   Mindful validation during disagreements can help couples work through conflicts   How our relationships often reflect the stuff we are working through   The key to working towards conflict resolution is leaning into discomfort and embracing uncomfortable conversations    EPISODE LINKS:  Matthew Fray Instagram  Matthew Fray Blog  Purchase his book here!    Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again         Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love        Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass           Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected        Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Welcome to Dear Dr. Tracy, the podcast that helps you navigate the everyday challenges of relationships, marriage, and parenting with expert advice and real, relatable conversations. Hosted by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this podcast is your place for honest, no-nonsense guidance on love, intimacy, boundaries, and communication. With over 18 years of experience, Dr. Tracy brings a mix of clinical expertise, evidence-based research, and personal insights as a wife and mother to help you break unhealthy patterns and build stronger connections. Each week, Dr. Tracy answers the questions so many of us have but don’t always know how to ask—about resentment, desire, mental load, and how to truly feel like a team with your partner. She’s joined by fellow experts, real couples, and her husband Greg, who offers a down-to-earth perspective on the struggles so many relationships face. If you’re ready for actionable tools and heartfelt conversations that will help you create a relationship that feels fulfilling, this podcast is for you.