Why Connection Is So Important in High Conflict Interactions

One of the cornerstones of successful management of high conflict interactions is connection. In fact, it is the “C” in the CARS Method®—a set of principles for managing high conflict disputes and interactions.In today’s episode, Megan and Bill talk about this exceedingly important principle of connection, including:why connection is foundational to successful interactions with high conflict peoplethe brain’s request for connectionwhy it is so difficult to remember to connect before problem-solvingthe impact of connecting—using EAR Statementswhether connection and EAR Statements can be over-usedLINKSBOOKSCalming Upset People with EARARTICLESCalming Upset People Fast with EARThe CARS Method®Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:21) - Intro to Connection (03:22) - Foundational to Successful Interactions (05:14) - Connection vs. Isolation (06:17) - Connecting with an HCP (09:17) - How the Brain's Involved (14:43) - Hostility Bias (16:00) - Misreading Cues (18:56) - Difference in Cultures (20:36) - Remember to Connect First (25:36) - EAR Statements (27:44) - Can You Overdo It? (30:52) - Wrap Up (31:24) - Reminders Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

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Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else. They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life! Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way? In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid. And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.