#164 | How Self-Mothering Can Help LGBTQ Allies Model Courage and Compassion for Their Kids

In this podcast episode, host Heather Hester delves into the crucial concept of self-mothering, positing that before we can adequately nurture others—be it our children, our work, or our communities—we must first learn to care for ourselves. This notion is underscored by personal reflections on the exhaustion and boundarylessness that often accompany a life dedicated to others' needs, a state from which many may find it challenging to extricate themselves. Heather shares insights gained from years of navigating grief, transformation, and the overwhelming demands of life, emphasizing that self-care should not be perceived as indulgent but rather as an essential practice. She explores the significance of setting boundaries, honoring our needs, and modeling compassionate self-care for those around us. Ultimately, this episode serves as a reminder that nurturing oneself is not merely beneficial but imperative; it cultivates a ripple effect of compassion that can transform our interactions and relationships.Takeaways: In order to effectively care for others, one must first learn to mother oneself. Self-mothering is not a self-indulgent act, but rather an essential practice for well-being. Establishing boundaries and prioritizing self-care are crucial steps in the self-mothering journey. The act of mothering oneself models compassionate behavior for those around us, including children. Listening to one's own needs and emotions is a vital component of self-mothering. Practicing self-compassion and rest is fundamental to prevent burnout and promote healing. Connect with Heather:Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from Heather's book, Parenting with Pride. Find out what kind of ally you are!Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!Connect heather@heatherhester.netJoin the Kind Space on PatreonBook a call! Watch on YouTubeListen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday!This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy

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Do you wish you could better support your LGBTQ child? To be an ally who shows up with courage, clarity, and compassion in your family, workplace, and community? You're not alone. More Human. More Kind. is a twice-weekly podcast supporting concerned parents and allies of LGBTQ+ kids who are ready to move from fear, grief, and confusion to healing, resilience, and empowered advocacy. Hosted by Heather Hester, author of Parenting with Pride and a fierce advocate for human rights and social justice, each episode blends grounded insights, personal stories, and practical guidance to help you protect what matters, raise brave kids, and spark collective change. * You'll learn to navigate mental health challenges, set loving boundaries, and find hope and support through the messiness of parenting, allyship, and becoming. * Whether you're wrestling with bigotry, searching for connection and community, or ready to shift your mindset toward kindness and open-minded action, this show offers the education and encouragement you need. New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday, featuring expert interviews, vulnerable Listener Queer-ies, and timely solo episodes that foster growth, empathy, and activism. Start with fan-favorite Episode 3: Embracing the Messiness of it All, an honest conversation that will help you exhale, reflect, and show up more fully and fiercely for the people you love.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy