Where Are You Following More Than You Are Leading? | E164

Are you abiding by someone else's model of success or are you forging your own path? There’s a lot of noise when it comes to what it means to be a leader and we often find ourselves following the advice of others instead of listening to our own instincts. In this episode of Leadership is Feminine, host Kris Plachy invites listeners to ask themselves where are you following instead of leading? For many leaders, there’s a point where you start to defer to the people you bring in to your business, your queendom. And slowly, you find yourself being less of a leader and more of a follower. Kris reminds the audience that even though it’s not easy, it is important to not acquiesce to those ideas. Instead of finding someone with the answers, seek out those who ask you questions. Kris opens up about her own personal journey with social media, revealing her struggle to find a fulfilling and authentic relationship with the platform. She describes the journey she has taken in order quiet the noise, and be able to use the platforms in a way that is aligned with her values and the type of leader she is. She provides compelling insights into the drawbacks of mimicking someone else's "kit" or model of success instead of figuring out your own unique composition. The episode thoughtfully explores how to navigate the pressures of following the herd, asking more questions than providing answers, keeping you critically engaged. Nonetheless, Kris emphasizes that in spite of the struggles, we have the ability and indeed, the right, to carve our own path. And so if you were to get really honest with yourself, where are you not leading? Where are you following? Where are you hoping someone else will just throw you the answer? Key Takeaways From This Episode The Concept of Balance in Leadership: Proposal to balance masculine and feminine perspectives on leadership. Reevaluation of Social Media and its Impact: Kris shares her personal experience with social media, specifically its performative aspect. Analyzing the Influence of Others on Our Decisions: Discussion about remaining true to one's values even when they conflict with others' opinions. The ‘Kit’ Analogy and Self-Discovery: Emphasizing the importance of exploring one's own attributes instead of following others Reimagining Leadership Structures: Encouragement to pursue genuine leadership. Contact Information and Recommended Resources Join Kris to help impact 20 Million Women across the Globe! Become a Visionary.CEO/catalyst and spread the word! Kris explains all the details on the podcast this week. Essential, go to www.theVisionary.CEO/catalyst, Register, Grab the Visionary.CEO/Podcast link from your dashboard and SHARE IT with all the women you know in your friend, colleague and network circles. We'll be tracking links by Catalyst and awarding each Catalyst who shares her link to at least 20 women with a free digital course from Kris's Boutique.  Connect with Kris Plachy Private Subscriber List: Get on the list today! TheVisionary.ceo Work with Kris and Her Team: TheVisionary.ceo CEO Boutique Email: hello@thevisionary.ceo Linkedin Instagram Facebook Pinterest

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For most women, when we are invited to study leadership the teachers, scholars, authorities and models are primarily… men. We are indoctrinated from the time we are born that men are the leaders and that natural male characteristics are the strengths you must also possess to be a good leader. Powerful. Strong. Authoritative. Direct. Assertive. Decisive. These and so many more are attributes that are typically associated with the male model of a leader. And so, for the better part of the last one hundred years as women have made their way into the fold, in a variety of leadership roles, we have learned and studied to walk the way of a men to achieve success. Women dismiss their own knowing because we’ve been so indoctrinated in male leadership models. We dismiss what we know for what others tell us to be and how to be seen. There is another way to lead. To be in alignment. To not feel like an imposter. It’s time for the reimagining of leadership. That’s not to disparage any of the progress that has come before us. Progress is progress. For those of us who stand in the footsteps of the women who came before us we are here because of their courage, bravery and resilience. I wonder instead if women equally looked to the characteristics they learned from their mothers for leadership. I wonder if we were taught to lean on different qualities to drive success. I wonder what might happen then? The traditional qualities of mothering are communication, nurturing, listening, strength, support, grace, and yes… love. What if to be the best leader you can be as a woman, you integrated the best of both? This is how women will stand with integrity in their role as leaders. As women, we can be assertive, direct, powerful, and authoritative but we need not only rely on those attributes for success. After 25 years of watching and studying leaders, I can tell you that for sure many traditional male attributes are effective in the short run, but they typically only serve a few. Whereas, when leadership is feminine. When the leader possesses the strengths of femininity and grace the results are for all. This podcast is my like my gentle request and invitation to my fellow female leaders that we reclaim the world leadership as one that is a feminine definition. That we continue to work with all of our allies to build organizations and systems that include more support, collaboration, grace and communication. And that we do so not because we are uncomfortable with the more traditional male-dominating models, but because we truly do know that leadership is a feminine strength and attribute. And the world needs more of us leading. Now more than ever.