164: How to negotiate with your self-doubt.

Next time you fall into a self-doubt spiral full of negative self-talk getting you nowhere - try this! Use the 'principled negotiation' technique espoused by Fisher and Ury (expert negotiators) - to negotiate with your emotions and inner chat! In this episode I explore two of the ingredients of 'principled negotiation' - Separate the people from the problem - and - Focus on interests not positions - and flip them to a negotiation with your own thoughts/emotions/assumptions and baggage! Practical tool - we explore when, why and how to use this technique - on your self! I wrap up with some powerful quotes from two classic books I've had on my shelf since uni days - referenced below. Pull yourself up before you fall down the self doubt spiral and achieve - nothing! PDF transcript on the episode page at trishalewis.com REFERENCES in this episode: Getting to Yes - Roger Fisher and William Ury  Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman  Borkovec - research on 'worry' Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.

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Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re human—this is your space to untangle the messy knots of self-doubt and squash the myths that keep you small. Hosted by Trisha Lewis, author of ’The Mystery of the Squashed Self’ and TEDx speaker, this podcast dives headfirst into the everyday barriers that hold us back: the sneaky grip of comparisonitis, the weight of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection, and the baggage of past experiences. With warmth, wit, and wisdom drawn from her own journey, Trisha offers bite-sized episodes filled with thought-provoking reframes, actionable challenges, and raw honesty. No fluff, no filters—just real talk about what it takes to show up as your true self and feel good about it. Ready to bash down the barriers and build unstoppable self-belief? Tune in and let’s get unsquashed. Mix of Trisha Lewis solo short episodes and Trisha with guests in longer conversations.