This episode explores the tension between wanting to make and impact and wanting to conform to the norm. Is it possible to do both? What are the symptoms of too much blending in or even too much standing out - when you are not coming from a place of 'you-ness'?
As always we look at the symptoms, drivers and then possible solutions to try out. As always I refer to a book or two and some areas that you might want to explore more - if you like a good rabbit hole like me.
References for this episode: Book - A Fraction of the Whole by Stand Toltz
Book - A Life of One's Own by Marion Milner
Theories: Impression Management
Social Identity
I also refer to my book and TEDx talk Book: The Mystery of the Squashed Self TEDx: Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy
More resources at www.trishalewis.com
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Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re human—this is your space to untangle the messy knots of self-doubt and squash the myths that keep you small.
Hosted by Trisha Lewis, author of ’The Mystery of the Squashed Self’ and TEDx speaker, this podcast dives headfirst into the everyday barriers that hold us back: the sneaky grip of comparisonitis, the weight of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection, and the baggage of past experiences. With warmth, wit, and wisdom drawn from her own journey, Trisha offers bite-sized episodes filled with thought-provoking reframes, actionable challenges, and raw honesty.
No fluff, no filters—just real talk about what it takes to show up as your true self and feel good about it. Ready to bash down the barriers and build unstoppable self-belief? Tune in and let’s get unsquashed.
Mix of Trisha Lewis solo short episodes and Trisha with guests in longer conversations.