E205: Emotional Sponges: How to Stop Absorbing Other People's Feelings by Defining Your Boundaries and Building Your Emotional Regulation Tools - A Behind the Scenes Look into my Small Group ADHD Coac

When your child charges in the room raging or super sour, how do you react?  Do you immediately tense up, knowing that the battle is about to begin? When your spouse arrives home, do you listen to the noises they make outside the door to prepare yourself if they’ve had a rough day at work? Does your stomach fall into the pit of your stomach, because you know the rest of the night is ruined? For most of my life, someone else’s bad mood would ruin my mood. Every time.  And I hated it.  It didn’t matter if it was family, friends, waitress, teacher… I felt them. I didn’t want their sour, grumpy, or angry feelings poisoning my mentality. But I didn’t know how, or even that I could, separate their feelings from my own. Many of us with ADHD, especially those who are more inattentive or socialized as women, are emotional sponges when it comes to other people's feelings, problems, and struggles.  From a strength side makes us super empathetic and great friends. Where it can become a struggle bus is when we don't know how to turn it off. Our big, messy emotions don’t have to be a liability! It may have taken me 40 years, but I want you to know that it is possible to still be a highly empathetic and kind person who also holds tight boundaries and takes care of themselves.  Today I’m sharing one of the strategies to do it! I pulled a clip from the last round of my ADHD group coaching program, Lighthouse, teaching how you can begin to define your boundaries, understand where and how you feel safe, and lean into your big emotions as a strength.  So get comfy, lower as many distractions as you can, and let’s dive into how you can keep the yuck out while still connecting with your children, spouse, or coworkers in a way that is comfortable and secure for you. Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:  https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-205-emotional-spongs-stop-absorbing-others-feelings-boundaries-emotional-regulation-adhd If you’d like more support like this, the next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching starts September 14th.  In 3 months together, we’ll get your daily schedule sorted and your emotional regulation tools sharpened, so that you can connect home to what matters to you, start trusting yourself again, and and build the life you want to live. Register now, as there are only a couple of spots left: patriciasung.com/lighthouse

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Productivity, Parenting, and Education for Moms with Adult ADHD Are you overwhelmed by the never-ending to do list of motherhood? Are you burnt out and barely keeping your head above water? Are you confused and frustrated by how all the other moms make it look so easy? And somehow you're still floundering despite trying even harder... Your purse is as overflowing as your mind, you never feel like a good enough mom, and you don't dare have anyone over to visit to witness your messy home. You just want the best for your kids, but you can't figure out how to manage the chaos, both in your mind and in your house. Oh, I've been there, mama. Some days, I'm still there. Parenting with ADHD is hard! We want to be structured for our kids, yet we can't seem to stay consistent even for ourselves. But I'm letting go of everyone else's perception of a "good mom" and stepping into loving who I am a little more each day. Will you join me? Whether you have ADHD like I do, or think you might, here is your permission slip to let go of the pinterest worthy visions of organization and structure fit for everyone else. Let's do life like our brains do life: creatively, lovingly, and with all your might. Moms with ADHD have a superpower of always trying their best, even when it doesn't pan out. How do I know? I have known about my ADD for over twenty years, and I want to share all of this hard-earned ADHD knowledge with you, making your adjustment a lot easier and faster than mine was. What does Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder look like in women? We'll dive into emotional regulation, motivation, executive function, hormones, medication, and natural treatments. Women with ADHD share their diagnosis stories with us, whether inattentive, hyperactive or combined, from childhood through adult diagnoses. We also talk about ADHD's so-called friends like depression, anxiety, addiction, disordered eating, other learning differences, and what I've learned through therapy and CBT. Science is my jam and learning about how our brains work through the lens of scientific research helps us understand who we are. ADHD is not just for little boys; it looks different in girls. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a neurological medical condition, not an excuse for lazy, stupid, unmotivated people to not live up to our potential. Let's agree to throw that thought in the trash. Once we understand how our brains work, we can dive into the practical strategies like structuring our day, minimalism, money, nurturing our relationships, daily rhythms, using a planner, and improving our sleep. I want to help you build your version of a joyful family life. We talk about everything from ADHD to Zebras, because that is how Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder works: to us, our thoughts are clearly connected, but non-linear to everyone else. I want you to love being a zebra in a world full of horses. We were born as unique, gorgeous creatures, not meant to blend in with the usual nor mundane. When we embrace who we are and how our brains work, we can figure out how to live out lives successfully and in turn, lead our families well. At the end of the day, we just want to be good moms. Spoiler alert: you are already a great mom. If you're ready to see that with your own two eyes, hit play and listen in as we love ourselves a little more each day of our ADHD lives. ADHD does NOT mean you're doomed to be a hot mess, mama! You CAN rewrite your story from shame spiral to success story, and I'll be right here beside you to cheer you on! With love, Patricia Sung, a fellow mama with ADHD Free Resources and Transcriptions at: motherhoodinadhd.com Connect with Patricia Sung on Instagram: www.instagram.com/motherhoodinadhd Join like-minded mamas in our Successful Mama Meetups online community: https://www.patriciasung.com/meetup Sign up for community, courses, coaching, and tons of free resources to learn about ADHD: www.patriciasung.com