Why Narcissists Text You Out of Nowhere (And How to Shut It Down)
Your phone dings. It’s the narcissist.“Emergency.”“Call me now.”“Why are you ignoring me?” These out-of-nowhere texts aren’t random — they’re tactics to pull you back into chaos. In this episode, Christy shares:🔥 Why narcissists drop “urgent” messages📱 The most common manipulations (fake emergencies, guilt trips, drama bombs)🚪 How to shut it down without losing your peace ✨ Resources + Ways to Work With Me 👑 Free Boundaries Pocket GuideGrab your quick-start guide to boundaries that actually stick → https://christyjade.kit.com/ce79ea9250 💬 1:1 Coaching with ChristyReady for personal guidance and deeper healing? Single Session: Reclaiming You Power Call → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ Monthly Package → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ 3-Month Transformational Coaching → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ Email me with questions: fiercemamac@gmail.com 🎧 Free Private Support Facebook GroupCome join the community and connect with other women who get it → https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 💻 Self-Paced Empowered Boundaries Course10 modules, scripts, meditations + lifetime access → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ Grey Rock Method Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grey-rock-method-how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist/id1662241353?i=1000648879776 TRANSCRIP Speaker 1 (00:02): Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear. Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christy wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had a come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck, and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there. And let's cue your royal glow up. (01:01)Welcome back to Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. I'm Christie. This is your guide to reclaiming peace, protecting your sex ass power and thriving, not just surviving after narcissistic abuse. And today we're going to talk about one of the sneakiest and most triggering tactics. Narcissists love to use. I've been through it myself. The random out of nowhere texts, if you're co-parenting, you've lived this probably a hundred times. If you're not, you may still deal with it. Pretty sure you have the Hoover text. These little attempts are sometimes big to reel you back in. But either way, the goal for them is the same, to control you, to control your focus and hijack your emotions. So why do they do this? Why? It's mind blowing Because we don't think like them. So it's very hard for us to understand why would someone do this? The lengths they will go and the things they will do, it's not cool. (02:10)So let's break down the psychology first. Narcissists crave what? Control. That's our biggest thing I talk about all the time, right? I should drink every time I hear myself say the word control on this podcast and supply. So they want control and they want supply, right? Feeding their ego, feeding, grabbing your energy, whatever. So when you've created this distance, that loss of control burns them. So they're burning up the fact that you've created a distance in the first place. We kind of know that the random texting is a way to test. Can I still get her attention? Even if it's bad attention, can I still spark that reaction? Right? So it's never about the communication. It's not really about whatever they're asking you or egging you to respond to. It's abo