Embrace the Real You: Ditch the 'New Year, New You' Myth

Ep 66: Embrace the Real You: Ditch the 'New Year, New You' MythSummary of the episodeThe latest episode of noseyAF dives into the concept of self-acceptance versus the pervasive "New Year, New You" mentality that often pressures individuals to completely reinvent themselves each January. Host Stephanie Graham reflects on her own experiences and goals from the past year, emphasizing the importance of self-trust and embracing who we already are. Guest Valerie Friedlander expands on this idea, discussing how societal expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy and the harmful messaging that something is inherently wrong with us. Instead of striving to become someone new, the conversation encourages listeners to reclaim their true selves and recognize the value of their unique identities. This thought-provoking dialogue invites everyone to step into 2025 with self-acceptance and a commitment to honoring their authentic selves.Takeaways:The New Year, new you mantra is often toxic, pushing unrealistic expectations on individuals.Instead of trying to reinvent ourselves, we should focus on reclaiming our true selves.Reflecting on the past year can help us set more authentic intentions for the future.Building self-trust is key to personal development, rather than conforming to external pressures.Embracing who we are allows for more genuine connections with ourselves and others.Recognizing that our perceived flaws can actually be strengths is essential for growth.Chapters:00:01 - Welcome to Nosy: Conversations About Art and Activism04:16 - Embracing the New Year as Your True Self14:38 - Reclaiming Yourself: The Journey to Authenticity17:59 - Embracing Your True Self26:30 - Understanding Self Through Personality Assessments34:15 - Building Self Trust and RelationshipsAll about ValerieValerie is a compassionate and creative coach dedicated to helping individuals, particularly women, break free from internalized patterns that limit their potential. With a deep understanding of societal pressures and the unique challenges faced by empathetic individuals, Valerie empowers clients to align with their most powerful selves and channel their energy toward meaningful work.Her coaching philosophy emphasizes that transforming internalized patterns not only amplifies one’s impact on the world but also fosters intentional, joyful relationships in all areas of life. Known for her empathetic and engaging style, Valerie guides clients through a creative and fun process that honors their humanity and intuition, uncovering personalized solutions that lead to lasting change.Resources mentioned in this episodeFlow Mastery Group CoachingCreate Your Flow CourseYou Were Born For This by Chani Nicholas🚨Lofi Beats for you to lay on the couch!🚨Fun Personality Tests:Myers BriggEnneagram (read up on this one though folks...

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