23 - ATTACHMENT HUNGER + RED FLAGS - the psychology of why we ignore red flags + the Tinder Swindler in discussion

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we get into the topic that everyone is talking about - the crazy Netflix documentary - The Tinder Swindler, The so-called Tinder Swindler is Shimon Hayut (aka 'Simon Leviev'), a convicted fraudster born in Israel. He used dating apps to meet multiple women, then got them to take out loans and credit in their names, ultimately leaving them holding the bills when he would later disappear - but not before he had spent ALL of the money on an insanely lavish lifestyle that he used to impress OTHER women. In today’s episode, Louise & Dr Tari break down: ⇢ The psychology of Attachment Hunger - something that starts in childhood when we don’t get the appropriate bonding and nurturing form our parent figures, and then later shows up in adult life as attaching too quickly to romantic partners; ⇢ The reason that so many people today ignore red flags;  ⇢ Why sexual validation and attention are not the same as healthy loving care; ⇢ The importance of knowing ourselves before we can really know another; and ⇢ Why some people only attract superficial relationships. Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also break down the specifics of the situation and look at; ⇢ Immediate red flags that should have been picked up on in the episode; ⇢ How to navigate dating apps when meeting someone new (+ the questions you have to ask); ⇢ How to actually get to know someone; ⇢ How to keep an eye out for someone like the Tinder Swindler so you can avoid at all costs; and ⇢ The importance of boundaries and time to attach when you meet someone new. ------ HEALING HONEYS (formerly OPENHOUSE)- STREAM MORE 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on Spotify 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on Apple Podcasts 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on YouTube 🤍 Join Ad free listening CONNECT WITH LOUISE 💌 Connect with Louise on Instagram & TikTok 💌 Connect with Healing Honeys on Instagram 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Healing Honeys is your modern guide to wellness and healing. This is *the* podcast for girls with big dreams who are trying to balance it all and heal along the way. Join Louise Rumball—serial entrepreneur, fiery Sagittarius, type-A overachiever, healing girlie, holistic wellness coach, and relationship expert (someone once called her the "Jesus of modern dating" so you know this is going to be fun). Louise’s healing journey has been anything but calm. Think: savage dating stories, harrowing breakups, 20 cigarettes a day, daddy issues, an anxious attachment style, and even an autoimmune disorder too. Fast forward to today, after spending thousands on healing and therapy, she’s here to guide you, love you, and laugh with you as she shares the tips, tricks, and rituals that saved her—and that ACTUALLY work. With new episodes every Wednesday, expect girl talk, psychology, nervous system insights, and conversations about love, sex, dating, wellness, fitness, a touch of business, and a sprinkle of spirituality too. So, get in, honey—we’re balancing healing, hustling, and life, and trust us, the best is yet to come!