35 - DATING - 'You’re hot, so what?' Exploring surface level love & attraction vs. deep connection & intimacy

Attracted to looks, power, status and aesthetics but want to really find true meaningful connections?  This episode is for you.  Today, Dr Tari Mack and Louise Rumball explore why today’s society are attracted to external metrics and what we really need to be focusing on to be building deeper, healthier and more conscious connections.  The pair explore:  ⇢ The external metrics of attraction ⇢The concepts of superficial love vs. deep intimacy and emotional vulnerability  ⇢How social media today makes you feel ‘less than’ others ⇢How a focus on the external world does not cultivate the internal world that ultimately attracts the right people around you ⇢How a focus on the external in terms of appearance, aesthetics and ‘fine tuning our facial work’ will not take you to true happiness ⇢How to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and those around you  ⇢The concept of ‘non-judgment’ in relationships ⇢What it means to be attracted to money, success and status ⇢What subconscious fears are running what you are attracted to + Louise’s personal experiences of ⇢How not being ‘the prettiest’ at school shaped her relationship with her self and body ⇢How her dating has changed throughout her 20s and into her 30s - and how dating attractive people & used to validate her ⇢What is important for her now in a relationship ------ HEALING HONEYS (formerly OPENHOUSE)- STREAM MORE 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on Spotify 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on Apple Podcasts 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on YouTube 🤍 Join Ad free listening CONNECT WITH LOUISE 💌 Connect with Louise on Instagram & TikTok 💌 Connect with Healing Honeys on Instagram 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Healing Honeys is your modern guide to wellness and healing. This is *the* podcast for girls with big dreams who are trying to balance it all and heal along the way. Join Louise Rumball—serial entrepreneur, fiery Sagittarius, type-A overachiever, healing girlie, holistic wellness coach, and relationship expert (someone once called her the "Jesus of modern dating" so you know this is going to be fun). Louise’s healing journey has been anything but calm. Think: savage dating stories, harrowing breakups, 20 cigarettes a day, daddy issues, an anxious attachment style, and even an autoimmune disorder too. Fast forward to today, after spending thousands on healing and therapy, she’s here to guide you, love you, and laugh with you as she shares the tips, tricks, and rituals that saved her—and that ACTUALLY work. With new episodes every Wednesday, expect girl talk, psychology, nervous system insights, and conversations about love, sex, dating, wellness, fitness, a touch of business, and a sprinkle of spirituality too. So, get in, honey—we’re balancing healing, hustling, and life, and trust us, the best is yet to come!