Why healthy relationships feel boring

#88 - Chasing hot and cold behavior, tolerating inconsistency & trying to change emotional unavailability doesn’t sound attractive, so why the F is it attractive to some of us? Does the truth lie within our nervous system? Sarah Murphy, biology of trauma expert, would say yes and that someone with a dysregulated nervous system, who is wired for a high baseline of stress, will find stable relationships and people *boring* and will search for a chemical cocktail of excitement from people who are just not quite right for them.  The pair get into:  How attraction ties back to our nervous system Why we keep attracting the same types of people repeatedly Why we search for a highs through romantic love and romantic drama Why stable relationships feel so boring to some of us Why Mr. Nice Guy, or Mr. Nice Girl can feel so uncomfortable too Why the spark disappears as the relationship progresses The biology of the ick ‘Love addiction’ and whether being addicted to someone is the same as being addicted to a drug The biochemical drivers of cheating Louise also shares her experience of how her ex reaching out to her after two years impacted her on a VERY interesting biochemical level. –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– 40% OFF YOUR HEALING GIRL OUTFIT WITH LILYBOD This episode is sponsored by Lilybod. To redeem your 40% off click here, using code ⭐ OPENHOUSE40 ⭐ at check out: AU: https://lilybod.com/discount/OPENHOUSE UK: https://uk.lilybod.com/discount/OPENHOUSE Louise selects: Baseline Legging - https://lilybod.com/products/c12-leggings-baseline-black?_pos=1&_sid=aba8df7b0&_ss=r Sam Shelf Bra - https://lilybod.com/collections/tops/products/lilybod-sam-shelf-bra-top-tarmac-black-lc95-tb Astrid Sports Bra - https://lilybod.com/products/c12-sports-bra-astrid-tarmac-black?_pos=1&_sid=f23f65ea9&_ss=r Harmony Ribbed Tank - https://lilybod.com/products/core-collection-top-harmony-ribbed-tank-white?_pos=2&_psq=ribbed%20tank%20white&_ss=e&_v=1.0 Layla Sweater - https://lilybod.com/collections/tops/products/c14-tops-jackets-layla-obsidian-gray The Mental Health Mushroom - LIONS MANE - 20% OFF with code OPENHOUSE: https://mytwentytwo.co.uk/ ------ HEALING HONEYS (formerly OPENHOUSE)- STREAM MORE 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on Spotify 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on Apple Podcasts 🤍 Stream Healing Honeys on YouTube 🤍 Join Ad free listening CONNECT WITH LOUISE 💌 Connect with Louise on Instagram & TikTok 💌 Connect with Healing Honeys on Instagram 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Healing Honeys is your modern guide to wellness and healing. This is *the* podcast for girls with big dreams who are trying to balance it all and heal along the way. Join Louise Rumball—serial entrepreneur, fiery Sagittarius, type-A overachiever, healing girlie, holistic wellness coach, and relationship expert (someone once called her the "Jesus of modern dating" so you know this is going to be fun). Louise’s healing journey has been anything but calm. Think: savage dating stories, harrowing breakups, 20 cigarettes a day, daddy issues, an anxious attachment style, and even an autoimmune disorder too. Fast forward to today, after spending thousands on healing and therapy, she’s here to guide you, love you, and laugh with you as she shares the tips, tricks, and rituals that saved her—and that ACTUALLY work. With new episodes every Wednesday, expect girl talk, psychology, nervous system insights, and conversations about love, sex, dating, wellness, fitness, a touch of business, and a sprinkle of spirituality too. So, get in, honey—we’re balancing healing, hustling, and life, and trust us, the best is yet to come!