EP 455: Breaking Cycles with Your Child with Sabrina
In this episode, Christine Hassler speaks with Sabrina, a single mom struggling to break the cycle of emotional unavailability that has plagued her family for generations. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, healing past wounds, and creating a safe and supportive environment for Sabrina's son. Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have a parent who was unavailable, and does feeling disconnected or dismissed trigger you? Are you a parent struggling with your child's independence and need for space? Do you know that healing starts within, but you're unsure how to begin? Guest Insights: Sabrina's Background: Sabrina is a single mom whose parents were emotionally unavailable. She recognizes that her father's drinking and her mother's choice of a similarly unavailable partner impacted her. Current Struggle: Sabrina wants to break this cycle with her 12-year-old son, who is becoming more distant as he grows older. Coaching Challenges: Sabrina's tendency to over-coach and talk too much pushes her son away. Her unresolved anger towards men and trust issues further complicate her relationship with her son. A-Ha Moments: Mirror Effect: Children reflect on their parents' unresolved issues. Sabrina's son is mirroring her feelings of being dismissed and not prioritized. Generational Patterns: Breaking the cycle starts with addressing her inner child wounds and not projecting unmet needs onto her son. Letting Go: Sabrina needs to let her son navigate his relationship with his father on his terms and provide unconditional support without overstepping. How to Get Over It: Self-Compassion: Acknowledge and be proud of the effort and awareness in tackling tough parental questions. Inner Child Work: Engage in healing work to address unresolved anger and grief towards men and her childhood experiences. Space and Support: Allow her son to explore his relationship with his father while being a supportive presence, not an overprotective one. Professional Help: Consider working with a coach or therapist to navigate the challenges of parenting a tween and personal healing. Social Media and Resources: Follow Christine on Instagram @ChristineHassler Instagram Tweet your insights to Christine @ChristineHassler on Twitter Join us next week for another insightful episode where we help you get over it and on with the life you love.