How to Be an IN CHARGE Parent | POF35

You can be a peaceful parent and still be in charge.  In fact, our kids NEED us to be IN CHARGE.  They are always looking to us to show them the way and if we are unsure and inconsistent it causes stress and anxiety in our kids which leads to behavior we don’t like.  Dr. Vanessa and I talk about how important it is to show up with swagger so our kids know in all situations that we’ve got this!  If we don’t, our kids think they need to be in charge and that’s when things get really hard and challenging!  Learn how to solve some of the hardest parenting struggles just by showing up as an “In Charge Parent!”  About Dr. Vanessa Lapointe Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is an author, parenting expert, and registered psychologist (British Columbia #1856) who has been supporting families and children for more than fifteen years. Author of Discipline without Damage: How to get your kids to behave without messing them up and Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, regularly invited media guest and contributor, educator and speaker, a Huffington Post Parent blogger, and a consultant to research projects and various organizations promoting emotional health and development, Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. She presently works in private practice and has previous experience in a variety of settings, including the British Columbia Ministry of Children and Family Development and the school system. Dr. Vanessa’s passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. As a mother to 2 growing children, Dr. Vanessa strives not only professionally, but also personally, to view the world through the child’s eyes. If you are interested in pre-ordering Dr. Vanessa’s book, Parenting Right From The Start: Laying a Healthy Foundation in the Baby and Toddler years, you can order HERE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.vanessalapointe/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drvlapointe Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvanessalapointe Email: team@drvanessalapointe.com Web: drvanessalapointe.com From the Podcast: Your struggles in parenting are not happening to you, they are happening for you to help you grow yourself up. How do you know if your child is the one in the lead?  They are precocious, bossy, demanding, unwilling to take your lead and defiant.  We usually want to shut these kids down but in fact what they are saying is that I don’t feel seen, heard or understood, so we need to get even bigger to get them to see we are their best bet so they can relax. How to bring swagger.  Your child, if they are in the position of being in charge, will be two steps ahead of you so that means you need to jump forward and anticipate the needs your child.  This means you have to do some work to plan what your child’s needs are going to be.  Not easy but worth it!  Being “Large and In charge” means you show up with kindness, empathy, wisdom and firmness (holding firm boundaries).  You are constantly looking for cues from your child to say, I see you, I hear you, and I get you.    Child: “I wanted to go for ice cream!!!”...

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Parents! We CAN change the world, starting with the way we're parenting our future. Up to this point in history, children have been seen as less than and parented in a way that uses power over a child. Most of us were parented in this way but there is a shift in thinking about the way we raise our kids. Parents don’t feel good about using shame, blame, criticism, punishments, and even rewards, to get their kids to listen. Parents are wanting a different way because they know from their own childhoods this type of parenting hurts and leaves us with scars we take with us through our adulthood. Each one of my episodes is designed to help you navigate the difficult journey of parenting but in a way that is more peaceful and intentional. I’ll show you how to get your kids to listen and cooperate without yelling, punishments and rewards. I’ll show you how to understand your own feelings and those of your kids. My intention is to bring you to a place where you feel connected with your kids and yourself (we often get lost when we become parents!). Tune in weekly for all the inside tips, tools and tricks I teach my private clients to help you build the family you always wanted, and to become the parent you always envisioned you would be. I promise to provide you with fun and entertaining content that will leave you seeing your kids and your reactions in a whole new light! Please make sure to share the episodes that give you goosebumps, and leave you feeling inspired! I am always grateful for every person who subscribes, leaves a review and rates my podcast 5 stars.