Using the Element of Surprise in Your Parenting | POF134

I have learned so much from my guest Michael Rousell, and I only spoke with him for less than an hour!  I think you will love this new idea (well new for me) of using SURPRISE to help change beliefs and mindset.  Using surprise can create dramatic shifts for someone and it’s important to know how to do it.   Michael Rousell is an expert in the power of surprise and talks about how it impacts us neurologically.  Not to be confused with shock or being startled, surprise is a survival system that tells us there’s danger or an opportunity!    When you surprise someone in a positive way that is the opposite of what that person believes to be true, the person automatically does a “google search” in their brain to make sense of the what they heard and now has a brand-new belief about themselves. It’s really incredible!  Listen in as we talk about the power of surprise, how it works and how you can use it in your parenting to positively and authentically influence your children.   In this episode we talk about: How surprise changes beliefs How surprise makes us need to make sense of the new message we’re receiving What role Dopamine plays in surprise How to use the psychology of surprise in your parenting To dive deeper into learning how you can use this in your parenting and in your life, download Michael’s gift, “Surprise! The Neurological Spark to Personal Transformation” and two other brain teasing handouts you'll love from the Parent Toolbox.  www.parent-toolbox.com Link to Michael’s TEDx talk https://youtu.be/K5O6mFWpgZo About Michael Rousell Dr. Michael A. Rousell is a teacher, psychologist, and professor emeritus at Southern Oregon University. Mike studied life-changing events for over three decades. His pioneering work draws on research from a wide variety of brain sciences that show when children are most receptive to transformative comments. Mike lives with his spouse in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. Website: http://michaelrousell.com/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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