“My Child Won’t Share Her Toys on Play Dates”: Responding to Challenging Behaviors After a New Sibling is Born

I get so many questions about challenging behaviors – not wanting to share, hitting and kicking, “clingy” behaviors, refusing to listen – that occur in the days, months, and years after a child becomes a big sibling. And while most parents acknowledge that getting a sibling is a big deal, we often don’t realize that our child’s challenging behaviors are connected to this major life shift.   In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who wants to know how to help her young daughter, who’s struggling on play dates. She doesn’t want her peers to play with any of her toys, and that often causes friction. I offer thoughts on how to handle these tough moments – and I also offer some perspective and thoughts about how our listener can reconnect with her older daughter.   Here’s the thing: Getting a sibling is a really big deal for kids, and it’s a big deal for a lot longer than most of us think it should be a big deal. Many, many times, challenging behaviors are connected to this huge life transition, and we can best support our kids by reconnecting with them and helping them process and regulate the tough emotions that come with being a big sibling.   FREE Mindset Shifts: https://www.raisedresilient.com/mindset   Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisedresilient/   Book a virtual coaching session with me! www.raisedresilient.com/coaching

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Parenting is the hardest job ever – and parenting a highly sensitive child who’s struggling can feel downright impossible. If you’re suffering through endless meltdowns and aggressive behaviors, walking on eggshells, and losing sleep worrying, you’ve landed in the right place. Because I’m here to help you feel GOOD about parenting your sensitive kid with big emotions! I’m Dr. Hilary – clinical psychologist and mom of 3 helping you end the constant meltdowns and reclaim peace in your home. Join me each week on the Raised Resilient Podcast as I help you make sense of your sensitive child’s challenging behaviors & build resilience in the face of their big emotions. I’ll help you understand your child’s behavior (and your reactions to it!) so that even the really hard moments make more sense. I’ll empower you with tools, strategies, and scripts to navigate those really hard moments with connection and confidence. (And I’ll remind you that no tool, strategy, or script is as powerful as your parenting ace – your relationship with your child!) I’m passionate about parenting differently – parenting in a way that sees all kids as good, even when they’re struggling. I’m passionate about breaking unhelpful generational cycles and putting a hard stop to spanking, time outs, shaming, and yelling -- for all kids and especially for sensitive kids with big emotions. I want to help you stop worrying about whether you’re “raising them right” and feel confident that your kids will grow up trusting themselves and feeling comfortable in their skin … because they were raised resilient. And that’s big. Because raising our kids resilient can literally make this world a better place. Listen, parenting is hard no matter how you do it. You won’t “enjoy every moment”, no matter what that lady at the store says. But I’m here to help you go from just barely surviving with to parenting in a way that genuinely feels good, for you and your child. So, warm up your coffee and grab your ear buds. It’s time to turn your child’s sensitivity into their SUPERPOWER! Connect with me: https://www.raisedresilient.com/ IG: @raisedresilient Get your Free Mastering for Sensitive Kids Meltdowns Guide: https://www.raisedresilient.com/meltdowns Take my free QUIZ to see if you’ve got a sensitive kid: https://www.raisedresilient.com/quiz Book your free Breakthrough Session! https://www.raisedresilient.com/breakthrough