Your Daughter Comparing Herself to Other People is a Soul Killer
Do you ever hear your daughter negatively comparing herself to other people and feel at a loss as to how to help her? Today’s podcast will offer parents a short but sweet and effective tool to keep your daughter from discouraging herself.At a recent retreat for middle school girls, an 8th grade girl I’ll call Natalia thru tears described how she gets up every morning before school at 4 AM in order to put on makeup, fix her hair perfectly, and try on as many as 7-10 outfits to get just the right one. She has been trying desperately to be accepted into a group of popular girls who she described as, “the pretty girls.” She tries to dress like them and talk like them in an effort to be seen and included. And when she’s not included, she has let it mean that she is ugly and unattractive.The mirror neurons in our brain are always watching other people to figure out what are others doing and saying in order to understand their tribe’s social mores. For 150,000 years, if you got kicked out of the tribe, you died, and so belonging to a group meant survival. That logic still plays out today for us all but especially during those vulnerable times like middle school where it’s normal to feel some self-doubt and uncertainty about yourself due to all of the changes you are undergoing.Here's what we taught Natalia and the other 19 girls: if you see something you like in another person, like you think she looks pretty today or you like how easily she makes new friends, instead of making it mean something bad about you, go and affirm them instead. Their strengths mean nothing bad about you unless you let it.Summary: So, parents can teach their daughters to catch themselves when they are comparing themselves to others and encourage them to go to that person and give them the compliment and don’t let it mean anything about them. This will result in girls being less discouraged and less self-critical and more confident.Join Our Community:https://www.facebook.com/DrTimJordanhttps://www.instagram.com/drtimjordan/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-jordan-md-79799120b/
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Girls tend to be more sensitive and anxious than boys. They experience a wide range of emotions simultaneously, which can make them difficult to predict. This presents a significant difficulty for parents, many of whom are already overburdened. If you do not know what is going on in their heads and hearts or the struggles they face on a daily basis, it is hard to know how to best support them. You have found Raising Daughters, a warm and helpful resource for parents on how to best care for and direct their young daughters as they develop. If you have daughters and want to help them through life's challenges, this podcast can give you the tools and guidance you need to do just that. Learn ways to connect with them such that you can remain an influence in their lives throughout the teen years and beyond, Find out in each episode what it really takes to take care of your girls, who are under more stress than ever before. They may be overly concerned with academic success, self-image issues, or anxiety to handle diverse social situations. Being overwhelmed by their emotions can lead to sleeplessness, irritability, anxiety and even depression. It is your responsibility as a parent to guide them in the right direction despite the chaos of the outside world. Learn from this podcast how to start important conversations with your daughters and give them the help they need to feel protected and loved. Each discussion delves deeply into what kids are thinking, feeling, and experiencing today, from schoolwork to dating life, friendships and even within themselves. Get ready to hear some personal, sensitive, and confronting information about the lives of modern-day young women. Learn from their experiences, some of which may go unnoticed or ununderstood, and improve as a parent of your own daughters as a result. The parents featured in this podcast share their insights and advice gained through raising children. Data-driven strategies for raising daughters are discussed, and episodes feature authors and experts in various fields of child development. To really get to the heart of what is going on in a girl's head, heart, and soul, the show also has girls on who share their current thoughts, feelings, and experiences. The podcast also discusses the effects of technology on the lives of young women. Parents need to step up their game as their children become more preoccupied with their phones and more vulnerable as a result of what they see on social media. In today's instantaneous digital world, it is important for parents to be informed about the various online communities in which their children participate. This podcast will serve as your helpful guide as you learn about the media and technology your daughters are using. Dr. Tim Jordan, a specialist in developmental and behavioral pediatrics, hosts the podcast. He has been mentoring young women for over 30 years, primarily through his counseling practice, weekend retreats and summer camps with a focus on self-improvement and leadership. Throughout his career, Dr. Tim gave talks to audiences of parents and professionals in the United States and around the world. He has the pulse of what every parent needs in raising daughters because of his extensive background and personal encounters with both parents and children. In every episode, he sets the tone with a friendly and humorous introduction that makes the discussion more enjoyable for the audience. The thoughts and feelings of young women are often misunderstood. If you label them as emotional wrecks, you are missing the point. Make a special effort to understand your children's feelings. Follow along with Dr. Tim as he helps you delve into their heads to learn about and empathize with their inner workings. In doing so, you improve as a parent and better meet the needs of your precious daughters. Listen to Raising Daughters at drtimjordan.com.