107: Byron Katie: How to Stop Being Controlled by Your Ego

Byron Katie is a renowned teacher and creator of "The Work," a method of self-inquiry for ending suffering.In this episode, you're going to learn why believing your thoughts is the root cause of suffering, the four simple questions that can radically change your relationship to pain and conflict, how to deal with feelings of certainty and superiority in activism and health advocacy, why trying to change other people often reveals deeper fears within yourself, and what true personal responsibility looks like even in everyday moments like picking up socks off the floor.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:15] How victim consciousness creates suffering[04:45] Byron Katie’s moment of ego death[06:10] Discovering the cause of suffering[08:00] Moving stressful thoughts onto paper[10:00] Seeing the ego as a terrified child[12:00] Who you are without painful thoughts[14:10] The death of the victim identity[16:00] How inquiry brings relief in groups[17:45] Activism, certainty, and superiority[20:00] Applying inquiry to health and activism[22:10] Loving others through their own choices[25:00] Owning decisions without guilt[27:00] How fear fuels activism[30:00] Responsibility for your emotional experience[31:50] Picking up socks and ending resentment[34:10] Defense as the first act of war[36:00] Boundaries and selfishness[39:00] How drama and suffering lose appeal[42:00] Ego’s survival and waking up[45:00] Byron Katie’s experience of awakening[48:00] Freedom from stressful thoughts[50:00] How inquiry naturally changes your life[52:00] Living without complaint or resentment[54:00] Relaxation and the gift of the unknownResources Mentioned:The Work of Byron Katie | WebsiteAt Home Live With Byron Katie | ZoomLoving What Is by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookA Thousand Names for Joy by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookI Need Your Love—Is That True? by Byron Katie and Michael Katz | Book or AudiobookA Mind at Home with Itself by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookYou can follow Byron Katie on LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook and Threads. You can also check out her website and give her Podcast a listen to on Spotify or Apple.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.This episode is sponsored by Samadhi Moss. Use code KELLY10 for 10% off your sea moss!👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here

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It hurts to have unmet needs. And it sucks to scurry after crumbs when you’re starving. Join Kelly Brogan MD, as she teaches us how our pain points are portals. She’ll help you discover a world where every seeming challenge is a new chapter in your most audacious story. Plot twists, body symptoms, and heartbreak each represent an opportunity to own ourselves and learn to better wield the power of choice. Kelly will take you on a reclamation journey from the battlefield of victim consciousness to the sovereignty of self-devoted pleasure and expose every surprising place you’ve given your power away. Explore the tools you’ll need to find out what you want, how to ask for it and how to stand in fierce alignment with yourself.Kelly Brogan is a soul alchemist and threshold guardian devoted to the transformation of collective consciousness. As a young know-it-all atheist, candy-addict, straight-A MIT neuroscience major and Ivy-league trained psychiatrist, she specialized in feeding women, herself included, straight into the mouth of the medicated beast. After a Hashimoto’s healing journey inspired her to sound the alarm on the bait-and-switch of big pharma, she became a renegade activist—authoring the New York Times bestseller, A Mind of Your Own, and its follow-up, Own Your Self; co-editing the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression; and eventually becoming an honorary member of the Disinformation Dozen. She is the creatrix of Vital Mind Reset, the online health reclamation program, and the membership community Vital Life Project. She’s a human, cat, and chicken mom.