90 - How can my husband love me, and be a sex/porn addict?

Are you a betrayed partner who has asked the question - how could my husband engage in such hurtful behaviors and still love me? If so, you're not alone! In this episode Kylene and Patrick talk about how this questions is really a form of communicating the pain that has been caused, the feelings of insecurity, the fear of comparison, and the reiteration of negative self beliefs for the partner. They also walk through understanding addiction was they begin to answer the question - how can these two things be true that my partner hurt me but loves me? This episode is for both the recovering addict AND the betrayed partner. While the question is from the betrayed partner side, this episode can also help the recovering addict more deeply empathize with his partners experience.   SAST test: https://psychology-tools.com/test/sast If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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Are you a wife who has discovered her husband is a porn or sex addict and you’re feeling overwhelmed and worried about the future? Are you a couple navigating recovery trying to rebuild trust and connection after betrayal but struggling to navigate the triggers and emotions that come up? Hi I’m Kylene, a betrayed partner in recovery, and Patrick, a former sex addict in recovery. In 2021, we found ourselves lost, overwhelmed and scared, having no idea if our relationship would survive or if we could heal as individuals. Thankfully, we got connected to powerful recovery tools quickly and began doing healing work both individually, and together. Now, we are 4 years in recovery and we have moved from lack of trust, to deep trust. From triggers and rumination every day to few and far between. From having a completely destroyed relationship, to creating a new, beautiful and happy relationship with 2 new, healed people. Kylene works as a betrayal trauma recovery coach to help women move from trauma to transformation and Patrick runs several recovery groups locally for men guiding them from addiction to sobriety to deep recovery. In this podcast you will find vulnerable stories, real life application, tools, resources, mindset work, and everything you need to step into FULL recovery whether you are the spouse who has been betrayed, the addict working to get into deep recovery, or a couple wanting to reconcile the relationship. Let’s do this together! Next steps: If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune