Annalie Howling on Trauma, Shame & People-Pleasing
Before we begin, we want to note that today’s episode discusses sensitive topics, including rape and sexual assault, which may be triggering for some listeners. If you or someone you know has been affected, we encourage you to reach out for support. You can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) for confidential support and resources. You can also visit RAINN.org for more information. Remember, you’re not alone, and help is available. Thank you for listening, and please take care of yourself. Shit just got real for women, and it’s time to get tougher. This week on Regardless, I have the honor of speaking with performance coach, trauma specialist, speaker & influencer, the one & only: Annalie Howling. Have you ever been told to be the “good girl”? You know, that message to put everyone else’s needs before your own and dim your light to keep others comfortable? We explore these challenges that so many women face, learning from a young age not to trust ourselves and the impact this has on our self-worth. It’s no wonder we often find ourselves people-pleasing or freezing in uncomfortable situations. Annalie and I delve into trauma responses—freeze, fight, and fawn—and the immense pressures of societal expectations, from both men & women. We also discuss the importance of embracing our true selves and why it’s absolutely okay to be "too much." Annalie shares invaluable insights on overcoming trauma, shame, and the habit of people-pleasing. We also discuss practical tips for owning your truth, prioritizing self-compassion, and breaking free from the fear of judgment. And don’t forget to check out Annalie's latest book, Unapologetic, available online at Target, Walmart, Amazon, Barnes & Noble. Also, a quick shoutout to our sponsor: use code REGARDLESS for 20% off Magic Mind productivity shots and 48% off a 3-month subscription at MagicMind.com/REGARDLESS. You've got this babe.