I Don’t Want Help! What Even is Growth? | #089

This episode ends up going very deep... Michael’s patience hits a breaking point after being on hold for 4 hours—then his girlfriend tries to help, and it only makes things worse. Lou and Michael unpack why support can sometimes feel like control, and how some conversations trigger defensiveness or feel like interrogation. They dive into the tension between processing emotions vs. taking action, explore their very different approaches to therapy, and debate what real growth actually looks like. The episode takes a deeper turn as they confront generational trauma, emotional triggers, and what it takes to break toxic family cycles.<br /><br />Support the pod:<br /><a href="http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br /><a href="http://secondhandtherapypod.com/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a><br /><br />Follow us here: <br /><a href="http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br /><a href="http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br /><a href="http://instagram.com/itsloubear" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br /><a href="http://instagram.com/malonecomedy" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br /><br />Contact us:<br /><a href="https://gmail.com" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br /><a href="https://tel:818" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">818-850-2448</a><br />PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

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Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions.<br />Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety, ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing.<br />It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.