How do I handle jealousy in a monogamous OR ENM relationship?

This week, DB reflects on last week's fantastic conversation with Certified Sex Therapist Claire Perelman. Let's take a moment to really unpack jealousy and envy, no matter if you're ENM or monogamous. What does jealousy say about us -- and what does it not? There's a sense of shame around jealousy that we can move past using our emotional honesty and by naming what we're feeling. Plus: a vocab lesson on jealousy versus envy. They're different! JEALOUSY SCRIPTS YOU CAN STEALWhen jealousy pops up mid-scroll: “Hey love, I’m feeling a jealousy pang. I’m going to take 10 minutes to breathe and journal, then could we do a quick check-in about Friday’s plans? I think I need a clearer start/stop time so I can plan something for me.” When you need reassurance without rules: “I’m not asking you to stop seeing them. I’m asking for a reassurance ritual--a goodnight text and a Saturday morning debrief. That would help my nervous system a lot.” When you want to celebrate your partner but still have feels: “I’m happy you had a great date, and I’m noticing some jealousy in me. Could we carve 30 minutes tomorrow for us? I want to reconnect.” Repair after a jealous blow-up: “I got flooded and got snappy. I’m sorry. The story in my head was ‘I’m being replaced.’ Here’s what I’m going to try next time: pause, breathe, then ask for a check-in.” ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!

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How do I stay in the moment and truly enjoy sex? What’s stopping me from orgasming with my partner? I’m ready to explore my kinks and fantasies in the bedroom; where do I start? You and your fantasies aren’t broken -- but your sex ed probably was. I’m DB, sex educator with a Masters of Public Health and host of Sex Ed with DB -- your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education, featuring trusted insights from conversations with top experts about everything you’ve been too scared to ask about sex. And this season? We're going ALL IN ON PLEASURE. Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. -- Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Take a second and think back to the sex education you had in school. Did it prepare you to have a healthy and happy relationship with sex and identity? If it was anything like DB’s, it was stigmatizing, judgmental, and totally unhelpful. But not to worry, the experts are here to offer the sex ed you wish you had. We cover an array of sex education topics like orgasms, abortion, pornography, fetishes and kinks, pleasure, consent and boundaries, healthy relationships, LGBTQIA+ mental health and sexual health, LGBTQIA+ relationships, coming out, sexual dysfunction and pain during sex, birth control, sex in the media, Queer stories, and so much more. We believe that everyone deserves comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-centered, feminist, medically-accurate sex education. On the show, DB and sexual health expert guests break down your most curious sex questions like “Am I pregnant?” or “How can I have a stronger orgasm?” or “How do I keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?” or “How often should I be having sex?” or “What are common sexual fetishes?” or “What are the benefits of masturbation?” Tune in for expert insights and candid conversations redefining sexual health and empowerment! -- ABOUT DB: Danielle Bezalel (she/her), aka DB, has a Master of Public Health from Columbia University with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health. DB is a leading voice in inclusive and medically accurate sex education. She tackles taboo topics with humor and expertise because no question is TMI when it comes to learning more about your body and pleasure. With 10 years of sex ed experience and features in Netflix, Mashable, Bustle, SELF, and more, DB empowers listeners to challenge taboos, rethink outdated narratives, and embrace sexual health and pleasure with confidence. Learn more at www.sexedwithdb.com and email DB at sexedwithdb@gmail.com.