The Fantasy and Reality of Threesomes with Dr. Justin Lehmiller

DB sits down with Dr. Justin Lehmiller to talk sexual fantasies, threesomes, and the impact of porn on our sex lives. Gain psychological insights into why we do what we do in the bedroom, and learn strategies for expressing your sexual fantasies to a partner. Plus, don't miss DB and Justin's advice to a listener hoping to improve their body image!   16:02 Improving relationships through sexual Ffntasies 25:46 Debunking the myth of porn addiction 29:53 Psychological insights into human sexual behavior 36:31 The fantasy and reality of threesomes 47:28 Listener voicemail- how do I improve my body image?   Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world.   ——   Do you have a silly sex story to share, need some advice, or have thoughts on the episode you just heard? Send us a voicemail for a chance to be featured on the podcast!  —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter : @sexedwithdbThreads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. Are you a sexual health professional? Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand. Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 10 is Sponsored by: Lion's Den, Uberlube, and Magic Wand. Get discounts on all of DB’s favorite things here! —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more. —— Sex Ed with DB, Season 10 Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Marketing Coordinator: Mitch Coburn Social Media Coordinator: Emm-Kirsty Fraser

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NEW SERIES! Welcome to Rom-Com Vom: where in every episode we go under the covers with a beloved rom-com, strip away its hidden toxic messages, and rewrite the script on love + sex. ABOUT ROM-COM VOM: Did our favorite rom-coms we adored growing up totally warp our ideas about love, relationships, dating, and sex? Spoiler alert: they sure did, and we’re here to talk about it! Join DB (Sex Educator & Pleasure Expert) and her renowned guests like Franchesca Ramsey (Comedian), Logan Ury (Dating Coach), Justine Kay and Natasha Scott-Reichel (Hosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose), Reed Amber and Florence Bark (Hosts of Come Curious), and more as we dissect popular rom-coms like You’ve Got Mail, Never Been Kissed, 10 Things I Hate About You, Twilight, Hitch, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, and more. We’ll dive into the swoon-worthy moments and cringe-worthy toxic lessons, unpacking how these movies shaped (and messed up) our views on healthy relationships and what sex should be like. And don’t worry—we’re rewriting the script with ideas on how these films could’ve done better. This series is perfect for fans of sex-positive podcasts, film nostalgia, feminist cultural critiques, and anyone ready to challenge outdated love tropes. -- Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Take a second and think back to the sex education you had in school. Did it prepare you to have a healthy and happy relationship with sex and identity? If it was anything like DB’s, it was stigmatizing, judgmental, and totally unhelpful. But not to worry, the experts are here to offer the sex ed you wish you had. We cover an array of sex education topics like orgasms, abortion, pornography, fetishes and kinks, pleasure, consent and boundaries, healthy relationships, LGBTQIA+ mental health and sexual health, LGBTQIA+ relationships, coming out, sexual dysfunction and pain during sex, birth control, sex in the media, Queer stories, and so much more. We believe that everyone deserves comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-centered, feminist, medically-accurate sex education. On the show, DB and sexual health expert guests break down your most curious sex questions like “Am I pregnant?” or “How can I have a stronger orgasm?” or “How do I keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?” or “How often should I be having sex?” or “What are common sexual fetishes?” or “What are the benefits of masturbation?” Tune in for expert insights and candid conversations redefining sexual health and empowerment! -- ABOUT DB: Danielle Bezalel (she/her), aka DB, has a Master of Public Health from Columbia University with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health. DB is a leading voice in inclusive and medically accurate sex education. She tackles taboo topics with humor and expertise because no question is TMI when it comes to learning more about your body and pleasure. With 10 years of sex ed experience and features in Netflix, Mashable, Bustle, SELF, and more, DB empowers listeners to challenge taboos, rethink outdated narratives, and embrace sexual health and pleasure with confidence. Learn more at www.sexedwithdb.com and email DB at sexedwithdb@gmail.com.