Episode 32: Discipline and Consequences
In this week's episode we talk about Discipline and Consequences and how we can raise our children without resorting to bribes, rewards, and punishments. We explore how connection can create co-operation and offer many respectful ways to respond to and navigate unenjoyable behaviour. [3.00] Understanding behaviour [5:25] In balance and out of balance and looking behind the behaviour [8.26] Understanding where discipline originated from [11.15] 3 reasons for behaviour: Thinking, Needing, Feeling [13.03] The mirror within us [14.35] All behaviour has a reason [18.25] Changing the paradigm in our culture around behaviour [21.25] Teenagers, discipline and lying [23.35] The problems with rewards [24.50] Natural consequences and artificial consequences [28.13] How do we all get our needs met? [31.00] How we can elicit co-operation [33.15] How do we support teenagers to want to co-operate [37.45 ] How coercion and powerlessness leads to less willingness [40.11] What do we do if they are doing something we don’t want them to do? [44.45] The power of Loving Limits [48.00] Our fears about what our children may become [51.10] How connection with ourselves assists our child's behaviour [54.11] The impact of repressing our true selves This week’s invitation: 1. Being mindful of the messages we give our children with our responses. 2. Other ways to respond to your children when they are acting out Resources: Alfie Kohn - Punished by Rewards. Unconditional Parenting Aletha Solter - Co-operative and Connected - Marion's courses - https://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Lael’s one on one sessions - learn@laelstone.com.au As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion